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It is said that the only stupid questions that you ask, are the ones you never asked. The sole intent of this section is so you may ask the burning questions you have desired to be answered. The answers to your questions about love and relationships may be given on this page, so please return to this section after a couple of days. It is also possible that we may take the questions you are asking and use them as a topic to write an article on. Whatever the case may be, we will attempt to supply answers that are useful to you.
Often times people want to hear the answers the way they want them, that is not going to happen here. Be prepared to accept answers that are answered out of love. Love will not tell you what you want to hear, but rather what you need to discover. Sometimes the questions that people are asking are more complex than they appear, therefore the answers you receive may be multifaceted.
Please note that the relationship questions you are asking will appear in descending order, 15 questions per page, thus you will need to scroll to the bottom of this page and click to the next page in order to see the question you asked about, as well as it’s corresponding answer.
Topics: Love Questions |
June 27th, 2008 at 5:56 am
I Love this man so much and i know he loves me too but he told me he can’t marry me because he is commited to someone else. This discovery has not changed the way I feel about him in anyway. Moreso, he continues to shower me with love like no one else has ever done to me before. You see, I can’t help but worry all the time that our relationship will end once he gets married. Please what do I do because I think it is better not to have hope at all than to have what looks like hope and it ends up crashing. Please I sincerely need your help. Thanks for giving me this opportunity.
Answer: Hi Francisca and thanks for your question. The right person will show you with their words and their actions what you mean to them. If you were spending time with someone who was not showing you, by their actions, that they want to be with you, then perhaps the relationship is not what you think it is. Often times when we are involved with someone our emotions cloud our judgement, we want something so badly that we don’t accept the truth. This is one reason why it is good to have your dates meet your friends, your friends will see things that you may not see, because they are not emotionally involved. If someone truly cares about you they will want to be with you and only you. I would suggest you read
Love Is Otherness
June 27th, 2008 at 10:09 am
I love these articles, I am in love with guy from last 1 year. I met on the net, it’s online friendship, going with each other then we shared our cell number to each other we talk on phone 1 to 2 hour. we love to talk with each other, I love the way he talking with me.. he is humble and caring and; loving too. After some days me meet up personaly face to face. Then I realized that he is the man made for me only. We love each other so much. Later on the days gone.. day by day, he changed lot. He is a businessman starting new business so he hardly get time for me or something like that. His nature flow towards angerness, high temper, always fight with me on little stupid things.. And I’m always said sorry whatever thing happened with us, he never said sorry to me when I never made any mistake on that time. Afterwards things are going same like that. He always having time for his online friends and; in that friend list gals friends are huge in numbers.I always keep on telling him that you have so many gals in your friends list and; always ready to chating with them, and not only chating with them but also giving cell number to them.. I don’t know how he can do this to me. Please help me what can I do, how can I express my love to him and; how can I express what I want from him.. Please help me.
Answer: In the beginning you say that you love each other so much, I hope that you did not become physically intimate with him. Having sex outside the context of marriage will open you up to deeper emotional ramifications. Temporary pleasures will only lead you to long term pains. Many men will put on a “show” until they get their lustful physical desires met. Please read the above answers to Francisca, it may be time for you to move forward, what you are missing is already missing you……..and you may not have “seen” them yet. I would like to suggest that you read Healthy Love Thoughts and then the article on Anger
July 2nd, 2008 at 8:49 am
Hi I wish to ask if changing behavior for someone you love but do not have you in mine is correct.
Answer: I am not totally sure what you are asking. However, the one who first benefits in improving your character is you. So you should first seek growth for yourself, then your relational improvements will be seen by others.
July 2nd, 2008 at 12:43 pm
I even don’t feel satisfied with myself. And I think that’s cause I didn’t have a healthy childhood. I have developed resentment for my family members that can never be healed and that makes me searching for an eternal love that make me feel complete. And I guess that all these things affects my relationship a lot. Should I practice meditation? guide me…
Answer: Whenever things look down, look up! I would suggest you read this
Relationship Article
July 5th, 2008 at 3:30 am
Hi, I’m in a relationship with a guy since 8 years. During these 8 years we’ve come to know each other more deeply than we used to do earlier. We respect and admire each other a lot. But we fight a lot too and that to over very small issues. Most of the time he gets very insecure and possessive over me, and that makes me lose my temper. Due to all these misunderstandings I’ve grown a kind of resentment for him. Moreover i feel attracted to another guy these days very strongly. I even told my boyfriend about that guy and we were about to break up. I feel guilty for my feelings and I don’t wanna cheat my boyfriend. I want to make my relationship more stronger and deeper without fighting and without being attracted to any other guy ever in my life……plz help me
Answer: I suggest you read Honest Character Distinctions
July 6th, 2008 at 11:51 am
How do I to satisfy my spouse, he is like 30 years older and am in my early 20’s?
Answer: Satisfy? Trying to satisfy anyone can be unhealthy, I would suggest that you instead love each other. Perhaps you might consider printing this out so you can both read it together.
July 12th, 2008 at 1:04 pm
hi, I love the website very much. I’ve been in love with a man for three years now we were suppose to get married last year, but when his family proposed me they change their mind and they refused to go on with this marriage, and he didn want to disobey his parents, so till now it’s been a year and we still waiting for them to agree so we get married I dont know what to do??
Answer: It sounds like you are in a culture that believes in getting the parents approval. My question to you would be, do you love him and does he love you? If you both love one another and you both want to be married then you should pray to God together, for God is the authority.
It is dangerous to be concerned with what others think of you… Proverbs 29:25
We are not trying to please men but God, who tests our hearts. 1 Thessalonians 2:4
July 17th, 2008 at 8:37 pm
What kind of dress must you wear to attract your date most especially for long lasting relationship?
Answer: Be yourself, dress for the occasions in conservative fashions.
How would you know that your relationship would last long?
Answer: That depends on both peoples character, but to know love is to know God.
Is it appropriate to visit your date’s family if you have not been authorized by your date.
Answer: That may be viewed as disrespectful.
Lastly, how would you relate to your date’s family, especially the nuclear one, if they are not interested in your relationship with their son or daughter.
Answer: Humbly with kindness and respect, don’t try to be a people pleaser though.
July 21st, 2008 at 8:28 am
Please I have been in a relationship for two years now with a loving and kind gentleman, but his brother is evil and he is trying everything in his power to break us up. I think it’s because he has not been able to maintain any of his numerous relationships. Even though the man seems not to be worried at all, I am. Please what can I do to turn this situation at hand.
Answer: Pray to God, and tell Him how you feel, be honest with yourself and with Him regarding this insecurity. Attempt to express your feelings to your boyfriend in a manner that you know he will understand. Know that people who are full of jealousy and envy are of poor character. Please read the following on Character Distinctions.
July 21st, 2008 at 3:57 pm
I have been fond of a guy that works with me for over 3 years and this year in May we started talking. He has a girlfriend and I was crushed but we promised to be friends. We have not been intimate and don’t plan to be but he told me that he has fallen in love with me and I love him too but it is the kind of love is mounted on respect and admiration. I feel as though he is the one for me and I am willing to wait but I am not gonna interfere in his relationship. Am I silly for thinking this way?
Answer: If he loves you then he would only want to be with you. The right man will say I love you with a ring. Be careful that your hopes do not leave you open to an abusive relationship where he uses you for his physical desires.
July 22nd, 2008 at 2:00 pm
Hello, I am in a bit of a predicament. I met a special someone two years ago who was separated from her husband. At the time I was in a relationship myself and after a few months decided to end the relationship I was in because the married/separated woman and I fell in love. This woman has a child who a few years ago, (before her and I met), her and her husband sent off to live with her grandmother out of state because they were having so many marital problems.
Well every time her daughter comes to visit, she tries to hide the fact that she and her husband are separated. She even goes as far as staying at the husband’s house (She claims that she stays in the guest bedroom with her daughter, and hopefully she’s telling the truth). Her daughter is not allowed to know who I am. To her I am just a friend of the family, and the husband does not know I exist. This coupled with the fact that it’s been 2 years and she has yet to file for divorce because of fear he brings upon her by threatening to attack her and take her daughter.
I just don’t know what to do anymore. When her daughter is not in town, her and I spend all our spare time together. She does not even communicate with her husband /ex. I have even met her entire family and they know we are together. Right now I have to spend the next three weeks away from her because she has her daughter for that amount of time and wants to paint this image of family bliss to her, even going as far as staying at his house for 3 weeks!!! I have been in relationships with women with children before and have not had any problems with neither the children or the ex.
I want to start planning for a future where I have my own family with her and her daughter, but she doesn’t allow me in. I don’t have any kids of my own and am past 30 years old and would like to start doing so. She tells me she wants to spend the rest of her life with me and is amazing to me apart from this issue.
I’m to the point of cutting this relationship off until she files for divorce or finalizes it because it is begining to take a toll on my heart and mind. I really love her but find it difficult to get past this issue. Is it just me, or should I just move on.
Answer: There is some deception envolved here, regardless of the depth of that deception it’s not healthy. Being separated does not mean one is not married. You can not marry someone who is already married. Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Proverbs 4:23
July 22nd, 2008 at 3:21 pm
i’ve met a guy in my work and we have been friends for a year now. however three months ago i felt like this friendship is developing. he felt the same too and he asked me whether i’m in love with him or not. i said yes. he told me that he likes another girl and he loves me so much and wish to be with me cause i’m the most one who understands him, but he really likes this girl. he talked to the girl and she said no. i dealt with him as a friend, a best friend and he treated me like no one else. any way i still love him and i don’t know whether he loves me or not. so i stopped calling him for 9 days. during these 9 days he called me 7 times. today he called me and said that he misses me so much and he really wants to see me. i met him and he kept on hugging me and kissing my hand. however i know that he didn’t get over that girl he likes. what should i do? should i keep on loving him?
Answer: Not sure what you mean by “keep on loving him”, hopefully that is not in an intimate fashion. If he loves you he would only want to be with you, it actually sounds like he may need to get honest with himself first. How does he have feelings for one person and then switch those feelings over to you, simply by your answers to his questions? If a man truly loves you he can say so in the most meaningful fashion, with a ring!
July 22nd, 2008 at 4:01 pm
My fiance gets very angry with me when I express any type of negative emotions or thoughts. It could be about anything. Even things not related to our relationship. If I get upset about something and calmly try to tell him what I am upset about, he explodes and says I am attacking him. I feel as if I cannot talk to him about anything. He says I am ruining a fantastic relationship. He says it is my fault that he gets so angry and curses at me or yells loudly and hits things. I have tried to approach him many different ways, but I always get the same response. I just feel that my feelings aren’t welcome to him. How do I deal with his explosive anger?
Answer: It sounds like you both may have some need to be honest with yourselves. When you are having negative emotions, do you know where the source of those emotions are? To deal with emotions and anger you need to have a better understanding of their primary source. Please read this article on Emotional Responses. I would also highly suggest that you have premarital counseling at your local church before you get married.
July 25th, 2008 at 9:01 am
Hi, I’ve been in been in a relationship with my guy for a year and some few months now. Am 20 and he is 31 he promised to marry me when we met each other, which i accepted. But my problem now is, he has been puting pressure on me to perform the necessary rites. To me, i wish i could get time to complete my education since there are more ahead of me. But he’s still saying i can be schooling when we get married. Our parent know of our relationship, but my dad insist i should’nt rush because if i go and anything happens he has no hands in it. So as he is advising me not to rush now. Since am the first born to them and the only girl, and by God’s grace i have secured a business after i completed my secondary level, now looking forward to Tertiary. My dad job is not enough to care for my siblings so i have been help him all the time and at the same time investing my salary into my Tertiary education. My guy knows of this, but he is still saying all this will be shortened when we get married. I also adviced him to wait but he was saying i know longer love him. Some few months ago the relationship nearly came to a halt. During this time there is this guy i know who also showed interest in me and promised to help me financially and truly he has been help me till now. During those time i had misunderstanding between my serious guy n i, communication became very poor. And to confess this new guy who’s been supporting me and my family had an affair with me.
I informed my parent about this new guy who promised to help me including my education, and they were willing to know him incase anything happens but i havent yet introduced him to them. because i heard he will be getting married with his former girl. which i asked and he told me its a lie. He is 28. I also confessed to my serious guy after everything has been resolved, that i had a guy who’s helped me a lot and also had an affair with during our misunderstanding. But i knew this gut long ago but didnt accept his proposal until i met my guy. I need your advice ugently please since i dont want to enter into anything and regret aftwards. And please if i may ask is it a big mistake i made in telling my serious guy that i had an affair with the other guy during the misunderstanding. I need ur advice urgently please.
Answer: Sometimes we let our emotions and hormones do our thinking for us, and they are not adequate for doing so. Marriage is a life long commitment and you will loose some freedoms when you get married. It does not sound like you are in love with either guy, nor does it sound like you are ready for a meaningful relationship. I highly suggest you read reasons for marriage and intimate bonding.
August 15th, 2008 at 11:08 am
Asking your dates pertinent questions will help you to ascertain their character. You need to be able to define if your dates value systems and beliefs are in congruency…