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It is said that the only stupid questions that you ask, are the ones you never asked. The sole intent of this section is so you may ask the burning questions you have desired to be answered. The answers to your questions about love and relationships may be given on this page, so please return to this section after a couple of days. It is also possible that we may take the questions you are asking and use them as a topic to write an article on. Whatever the case may be, we will attempt to supply answers that are useful to you.
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March 6th, 2010 at 2:53 pm
Hello.. Im 17 years old and ive been dating my boyfriend for 2 years. i kno compared to some of these post it may seem like nothing. But Im confused about this relationship… idk if we’ve been together to long or he wants to seek others.. here’s the story… About 3 months ago i happened to look at his messages just being nosy and i seen he wrote a female sayin he was going to c her. And what he wuz going to do with her and what she could do with him (Sexually). It hurt amd i explained to him my point of the situation and we argued and fought. But nothing seemed to cross his mind about him being wrong. He made up excuses like he always does to cover himself up. Then I gave him a 2nd chance wen he said he wud never do it again. Now today i go and luk at his messages and c that another female was writing him and he says “Can a nigga call u sometime.. u gotta number?”… i mean… i dnt get it. I havnt did anything to him!.. Just being faithful.. I talk to him and tlk to him but nothing seems to get threw. idk.. Wat should i do?
Answer: First off never give yourself away prematurely, many men will take advantage of you to get what they want, (sex). Wait for them to give you a ring and a certificate of marriage. You have to make your own decisions, but you need to understand the difference between lust and love.
February 12th, 2010 at 6:45 am
Want God’s view on why marriage is inportant. What is God’s view on living together. Where to find it in the bible I have a sister who ask me to find this for her. I thank you for all the things on your site I use them daily. Mary R.
HERE ARE A FEW:
But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust. 1 Corinthians 7:9
A beautiful woman who lacks discretion is like a gold ring in a pig’s snout. Proverbs 11:22
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18
When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, Galatians 5:19
Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Colossians 3:5
Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. Hebrews 13:4
February 3rd, 2010 at 1:40 pm
please help! I am in love with a man whom i find does not consider how i feel in situations. He believes it is o.k to go out to meetings over drink or dinner with opposite sex. I do not. Before he will marry me, he states that i have to sign agreement that if we were to separate, i would not be entitled to his house, etc, and that he wouldn’t have to pay child support for (my son). I would not be interrested in taking what HE worked so hard for but it hurts me that he would ask me to sign. THANKS!
Answer: It sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too! Opposite sex meetings within safe places during the work day is one thing, but to give lust an opportunity at night with drinks is another. If you sign the thing you basically give him the right to do whatever he wants, whenever he wants without any reprocusions for poor actions. Besides, love is a commitment, the fact that he would want you to sign something like that shows a lack of love and shows that he wants to be able to bail out at his own whim. It’s a fire escape agreement, he wants to get married with one foot already out the door. He should be in for the duration from the beginning or not at all right? What do you think? It’s your choice, think with your brains and not with your emotions. And if you have already had sex, I would suggest you stop giving him what he wants, you would only be disrespecting yourself.
January 23rd, 2010 at 5:12 pm
An aquintnace of mine and i have over the last 4 months begun an awesome and very close friendship. There’s been alot of sexual tension between us and flirting but also honesty and the ability to talk for 6 hours straight about life but also make dumb jokes and just hang out. We have exactly the same music tastes, life attitudes but enough differences to be different people.
In those past 4 months, we’ve texted each other every single day, sometimes all day every day and hung out about 3 or 4 times a week. The texts are sometimes about things that matter or sometimes just telling me that he’s had a sandwich as big as his face.
He loves being playful and a flirt, nothing to tie him down kind of guy. We always dance together when we’re out because no-one else can keep up with us, it’s kinda our thing. Anyways, he kissed me on new years and i told him that i liked him but would never put my own feelings in the way of a friendship so if he didn’t like me that was fine. He thought about it for ages and basiclly he’s stance was he’s a sexually active and generally casual person and but to have sex with him at my own peril. Basically i feel that i don’t like him emotionally enough to be with him so i feel like i’m not going to get attached.
There’s a 4-5 year age gap, i’m older, and we’ve just started flirting more and more and getting more and more physical. Basically, an outside opinion on this would be awesome… do you think there is any chance that this dude likes me but is a bit scared of a relationship? Because his mates have told me he doesn’t “do” relationships and he’s described himself as a free spirit. Should i stay, enjoy the frienship and sex but keep my feet on the ground or should i go because i’m only going to get hurt?
Cheers.
Answer: PERIL means a source of danger; a possibility of incurring loss or misfortune. The choices you make must be made for yourself, however the insights to your questions are available in this sites articles. I would suggest you take time to read them, in this way you will gain greater understanding.
December 29th, 2009 at 5:13 pm
my boyfriend and i live in different states. i in north carolina and he in maryland. three months ago i found out that he had sleeping with someone else for three months and got her pregnant although she didn’t keep the baby. she told me via facebook three months after the situation happened because he told her he wasn’t dealin with me again and she found out that he still was. she told me that he told her if they got pregnant again they would keep it and they both decided to not keep the pregnancy.she also said that he is dealing with several other girls. should i stay with him? i really love him and i know he loves me but i don’t know what to do. he doesn’t talk to the girl anymore.
Answer: If that is true, which is really unknown to you, it’s only something someone said. But lets say it is true, then how could he love you? He loves you by sleeping with anyone who comes along? See how much he loves you, refrain from sex, and then wait to see if he proposes to you. If he does not, then it’s nothing but LUST.
December 29th, 2009 at 3:08 pm
ok so ive been living with my girl friend for almost five months the other day she said it didnt feel like im her boy friend just a friend so i tried to spice it up with candles and flowers and rose peddles every where and a bath and rose peddles over the bed but all she did was give me a hug and we went to the mall after all my romantic trying i thought it might have helped with our sex but we still didnt make love which is weird for us, i am right to be nervious?
Answer: Why don’t you try a ring and a certificate of marriage? Relationship is about far more than your LUST.
December 28th, 2009 at 1:04 pm
ok, so i will try and make this as short as possible. i have this guy friend, who i have known for about 11 years now. we were in the service together. even when we couldn’t see each other in person, we kept in contact by phone, email, chat, or video chat. when we were in the service together, we did the whole friends with benefits thing, on a very regular basis. so,a couple weeks ago, he talked me into coming to see him, and seeing if its a place i would like to live. so i am here, staying with him. we sleep together every night, he kisses me before he leaves for work or anything, without me hinting or prompting him to, he does all the things that a boyfriend would, but he still says we are good friends with benefits. so him doing all these things, does that mean that there is some interest in more than just friends with benefits, or is there no hope at all for a relationship with him.
Answer: Who is benefitting? Relationship is far deeper than sex, if you want more, you need to let him know that you want to be more than just a mistress to him. And, you need to leave and refrain from LUST based benefits and look for ring based and marriage certificate based benefits within the commentment of love benefits.
December 25th, 2009 at 1:17 am
hi my name is penny . i told this like 10 month ago that i am in love with him he said he has some family drama and he wall call me when it is over … he did call me but just to go to he place and watch a movie with him .. what i am trying to say is that why dose he sees me one tame and then calls me 3 month’s later when he knows that i am in love with him why dose he pretends like i never told him nothing and calls me me he feels like
Answer: You seem to like attention when you are not receiving it and thus you allow unhealthy emotional trends to continue. Think about it, if he is not calling you then he is not being considerate or thoughtful of you. But suddenly he is? Bottom line; what do you think that you have that this guy wants??? Some guys are only interested in one thing, any ideas what that one thing might be?
December 2nd, 2009 at 10:29 pm
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two years. We are very much in love and I think he means to propose to me soon. The only thing that is bad is that his mother hates me. I have been nice and attempted to ‘get on her good side” so to speak, but she will not let us spend time together or let him come to see me. I really am trying to figure out what I can do to make this better, because I do not want to be a member of a family that cannot stand me. What should I do to gain her friendship and trust?
Answer: Be careful not to put her on a pedestal, you do not require her approval or affirmation. The bible says it is dangerous to be overly concerned with what other people think of you. Too many people go around trying to please the wrong people for the wrong reasons. Simply, be kind, respectful, show her love, but don’t bend over backwards to please her.
December 2nd, 2009 at 5:43 am
Firstly i want to thank your team for building such an inspirational site. My questions to you is that in my past there were many people who played with my feelings and emotions. I have never done harm to anyone intentionally. Now these people are at the top and very happy. I feel sometimes very bad that how come these people are happy when they lied and played with me. I really start hating myself. My inner self confidence just vanishes. I am married and i have a loving and caring husband but can’t forget what has happened with me in the past.
Answer: First and foremost, God is your vindicator. Secondly, you can’t move forward as long as you are trying to drag those old hurts with you. No, it’s not right the way many people treat people, but that can not become a crutch for you. You need to let it go, forgive them their trespasses, and trust in God’s judgement with regards to them. The plans God has for you are out in front of you, not behind you. You need to be careful what you listen to, don’t listen to those condemning voices from the past, that stuff comes from the devil. Don’t give away your power to other peoples opinions or past comments of you, and don’t give away your power by thinking they are above you. You are not defined by things or success, you are defined by your essence. You have a great future ahead of you, do not allow yourself to be held back.
November 17th, 2009 at 3:43 pm
I married my husband 15 years ago-arranged marriage. We fell in love after a year and now have two children. I have been extremely ill for some years now with hypothyroidism and chronic fatigue syndrome/ fibromyalgia. I am a housewife, but can only do small things around the house (half an hour max daily). I target raising our children-giving them lots of love by spending time with them constantly every day. My husband and I never had anything in common, just our children. He is a pilot and is home 2 weeks at a time. He has been supportive by getting up with the kids, making dinner, grocery shop, etc. I am constantly trying to find ways thru my doctor to get the help I need, with only diagnoses and no treatment. I now seem to relax all day (no energy and pain) and my sex drive is completely gone. My husband is starting to get tired of my illness and frustrated with no love making (now 5 months). His frustration comes out as anger and sarcasm towards me. Then, I get mad at him. He puts me down with bad jokes and says I shouldn’t take them seriously. I hate that I can’t be there for him in that way. We are fighting a lot because of the lack of love making, but I ask for conversing with each other/cuddling, as a way of bonding for now, a way of holding on to what little we seem to have left. He says that what I have to say is boring and I feel the same way about him talking about work all the time. I’m not out of the house much, because of my lack of energy, so I talk about the kids and a lot of random things. At this point, I have mentioned divorce, because I seem to disappoint him in so many levels. I can’t make a life of my own at this moment, because of the years of illnesses. I don’t want to put my children thru this. What do I do about my husband saying making love is the #1 important thing in our marriage and we don’t have the same likings? To come to think of it, all we truly had in the beginning years was making love and our children. I want to save our marriage and find some new way to connect mentally and continue working with my doctor to feel better, but I don’t know if it’s enough time before our marriage will crumble. Sorry to go on like this, but I need help.
Answer: The first thing you need to do, both of you, is to take the ‘D’ word out of the equation. People say hurtful things when they are emotionally and or physically hurting, OR…..when they are not getting things their way. It sounds like you need more God in your relationship, do you have and read the bible? Do you watch sermons on TV? The first place to go in the morning, each day, and in tribulation is God. God is good for everything, for healing, for restoration, for love, and for wisdom. With God all things are possible! The closer you draw to Him, the better things will become. I would suggest that you tell your husband that his belittling comments do not help, that they lack compassion and understanding, there is no love in them, and that they are not funny. And I would suggest that you do not sink to that level. Tossing fire darts is not going to accomplish any good. Get a bible and read Ephesians 4:25 thru 5:33, and if possible read it with your husband. As to your health I have a couple of suggestions that you should take up with your Doctor, B5 and
Ashwagandha
November 10th, 2009 at 9:32 pm
OKAY I HAVE KNOWN A BOY FOR 3 YRS NOW AND WE BROKE UP ONE TIME BEFORE THAT WE WAS GOING TOGETHER FOR 5 MONTHS THAT HE GOT LOCKED UP CAME HOME THAN WE WENT BACK TOGETHER AND NOW 6 MONTHS IN TO THIS TIME HE GO BACK TO JAIL FOR FRAME. I DONT WANT TO LEAVE HIS SIDE BUT HE MIGHT GET A LONG TIME IN JAIL AND IM YOUNG AND HE WANT TO MUCH MONEY WHEN I DONT HAVE IT BUT I WANT TO BE THERE WHAT TO DO AND HOW CAN I TELL HIM I DONT TRUST HIM?
Answer: He’s in jail for framing someone and wants money from you? You have to make your own decisions in life, sometimes we allow others to push us into things that we shouldn’t. Think with your head and not with your emotions.
November 5th, 2009 at 1:41 pm
I am 27 years old and been married 5 years and 6 1/2 year together. I really loved him and can honestly say i discovered true love with my husband. But i found him with someone else 5 months after our marriage. We separated and he had a child with the other girl, now we got back together we have 2 baby girls and one more on the way but i just cant love him the way i used to. I don’t feel the same way i used to before all this happened. He even says it himself but i try and it just does not grow for me to be attentive and loving like before. Sometimes i feel the need to get away from him. Why What should i do, i dont want to loose him or give up on my marriage as i know i still love him just not the same way.
Answer: As humans we are emotional beings, our emotions play a big part in our daily lives and in our relationships. Trust was shattered in your relationship and you became hurt, understandably so. You say you can’t love him as before, (you can if you choose to), but your pain is in the way. You do not have to wait for your “feelings” to love others, love is a choice. It really sounds like the pain, the hurtful memory is still active within you, (again it is understandable), but it’s playing out daily in your relationship. That is probably why you want to get away from him, but you really want to get away from the pain, not from him. He reminds you of the pain, (of the painful memory), then a part inside you wants to “escape”, (it wants to escape the pain). Here’s the deal, you can’t just run away and escape from the pain, it’s your pain, and the healing will only come at the source of the pain, (which is within you). Here’s the Antidote, (which is a process), each time you think of, or are reminded of that painful memory, hold your hand up with your fist closed as if your husband was in it. Open your hand and release your husband, and your pain, to God by saying “I forgive him, (speak his name), in Jesus name…..Amen. Please read the article on forgiving others now >
October 17th, 2009 at 12:56 am
i am 30 yrs old and had an arranged marriage with 10 month old kid. I have filed a petition for divorce because my wife has committed suicide twice inspite of me getting separated from my parents who did not harm her in any manner. I am now in love with a girl and proposed her. We are carrying on since last 6 months. My girlfriend is not willing to accept the fact that i slept with my wife if i did not love her. Inspite of my several efforts to make her understand that in arranged marriage, love happens later. My girlfriend loves me a lot but she sometimes gets wild on me because she thinks i’ve done a terrible mistake to have sex with my wife even when i dont love her. What should i do to convince my girlfriend?
Answer: Frankly, you are not single, how can you ask someone to marry you when you are married? You seem to be moving a bit fast??? There is a lot of honest information missing from your comment / question. However one might wonder if you always run away when you are not able to love someone else? Getting a divorce because your wife attempted suicide? Sounds like she needs all the help and love she can get. As to your girlfriend, she is probably feeling quite insecure with you, with good reason. You are still married, and honestly many men will go to bed with a woman just to get their sexual desires fulfilled. That’s what you were doing right? So what changes with a new woman? And what are you going to do when tough times come between you and this woman, seek another? Love is a commitment, it does not blow away like a leaf in the wind.