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It is said that the only stupid questions that you ask, are the ones you never asked. The sole intent of this section is so you may ask the burning questions you have desired to be answered. The answers to your questions about love and relationships may be given on this page, so please return to this section after a couple of days. It is also possible that we may take the questions you are asking and use them as a topic to write an article on. Whatever the case may be, we will attempt to supply answers that are useful to you.
Often times people want to hear the answers the way they want them, that is not going to happen here. Be prepared to accept answers that are answered out of love. Love will not tell you what you want to hear, but rather what you need to discover. Sometimes the questions that people are asking are more complex than they appear, therefore the answers you receive may be multifaceted.
Please note that the relationship questions you are asking will appear in ascending order, 15 questions per page, thus you will may need to scroll to the bottom of this page and click to the next page in order to see the question you asked about, as well as it’s corresponding answer.
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November 17th, 2009 at 3:43 pm
I married my husband 15 years ago-arranged marriage. We fell in love after a year and now have two children. I have been extremely ill for some years now with hypothyroidism and chronic fatigue syndrome/ fibromyalgia. I am a housewife, but can only do small things around the house (half an hour max daily). I target raising our children-giving them lots of love by spending time with them constantly every day. My husband and I never had anything in common, just our children. He is a pilot and is home 2 weeks at a time. He has been supportive by getting up with the kids, making dinner, grocery shop, etc. I am constantly trying to find ways thru my doctor to get the help I need, with only diagnoses and no treatment. I now seem to relax all day (no energy and pain) and my sex drive is completely gone. My husband is starting to get tired of my illness and frustrated with no love making (now 5 months). His frustration comes out as anger and sarcasm towards me. Then, I get mad at him. He puts me down with bad jokes and says I shouldn’t take them seriously. I hate that I can’t be there for him in that way. We are fighting a lot because of the lack of love making, but I ask for conversing with each other/cuddling, as a way of bonding for now, a way of holding on to what little we seem to have left. He says that what I have to say is boring and I feel the same way about him talking about work all the time. I’m not out of the house much, because of my lack of energy, so I talk about the kids and a lot of random things. At this point, I have mentioned divorce, because I seem to disappoint him in so many levels. I can’t make a life of my own at this moment, because of the years of illnesses. I don’t want to put my children thru this. What do I do about my husband saying making love is the #1 important thing in our marriage and we don’t have the same likings? To come to think of it, all we truly had in the beginning years was making love and our children. I want to save our marriage and find some new way to connect mentally and continue working with my doctor to feel better, but I don’t know if it’s enough time before our marriage will crumble. Sorry to go on like this, but I need help.
Answer: The first thing you need to do, both of you, is to take the ‘D’ word out of the equation. People say hurtful things when they are emotionally and or physically hurting, OR…..when they are not getting things their way. It sounds like you need more God in your relationship, do you have and read the bible? Do you watch sermons on TV? The first place to go in the morning, each day, and in tribulation is God. God is good for everything, for healing, for restoration, for love, and for wisdom. With God all things are possible! The closer you draw to Him, the better things will become. I would suggest that you tell your husband that his belittling comments do not help, that they lack compassion and understanding, there is no love in them, and that they are not funny. And I would suggest that you do not sink to that level. Tossing fire darts is not going to accomplish any good. Get a bible and read Ephesians 4:25 thru 5:33, and if possible read it with your husband. As to your health I have a couple of suggestions that you should take up with your Doctor, B5 and
Ashwagandha
November 10th, 2009 at 9:32 pm
OKAY I HAVE KNOWN A BOY FOR 3 YRS NOW AND WE BROKE UP ONE TIME BEFORE THAT WE WAS GOING TOGETHER FOR 5 MONTHS THAT HE GOT LOCKED UP CAME HOME THAN WE WENT BACK TOGETHER AND NOW 6 MONTHS IN TO THIS TIME HE GO BACK TO JAIL FOR FRAME. I DONT WANT TO LEAVE HIS SIDE BUT HE MIGHT GET A LONG TIME IN JAIL AND IM YOUNG AND HE WANT TO MUCH MONEY WHEN I DONT HAVE IT BUT I WANT TO BE THERE WHAT TO DO AND HOW CAN I TELL HIM I DONT TRUST HIM?
Answer: He’s in jail for framing someone and wants money from you? You have to make your own decisions in life, sometimes we allow others to push us into things that we shouldn’t. Think with your head and not with your emotions.
November 5th, 2009 at 1:41 pm
I am 27 years old and been married 5 years and 6 1/2 year together. I really loved him and can honestly say i discovered true love with my husband. But i found him with someone else 5 months after our marriage. We separated and he had a child with the other girl, now we got back together we have 2 baby girls and one more on the way but i just cant love him the way i used to. I don’t feel the same way i used to before all this happened. He even says it himself but i try and it just does not grow for me to be attentive and loving like before. Sometimes i feel the need to get away from him. Why What should i do, i dont want to loose him or give up on my marriage as i know i still love him just not the same way.
Answer: As humans we are emotional beings, our emotions play a big part in our daily lives and in our relationships. Trust was shattered in your relationship and you became hurt, understandably so. You say you can’t love him as before, (you can if you choose to), but your pain is in the way. You do not have to wait for your “feelings” to love others, love is a choice. It really sounds like the pain, the hurtful memory is still active within you, (again it is understandable), but it’s playing out daily in your relationship. That is probably why you want to get away from him, but you really want to get away from the pain, not from him. He reminds you of the pain, (of the painful memory), then a part inside you wants to “escape”, (it wants to escape the pain). Here’s the deal, you can’t just run away and escape from the pain, it’s your pain, and the healing will only come at the source of the pain, (which is within you). Here’s the Antidote, (which is a process), each time you think of, or are reminded of that painful memory, hold your hand up with your fist closed as if your husband was in it. Open your hand and release your husband, and your pain, to God by saying “I forgive him, (speak his name), in Jesus name…..Amen. Please read the article on forgiving others now >
October 17th, 2009 at 12:56 am
i am 30 yrs old and had an arranged marriage with 10 month old kid. I have filed a petition for divorce because my wife has committed suicide twice inspite of me getting separated from my parents who did not harm her in any manner. I am now in love with a girl and proposed her. We are carrying on since last 6 months. My girlfriend is not willing to accept the fact that i slept with my wife if i did not love her. Inspite of my several efforts to make her understand that in arranged marriage, love happens later. My girlfriend loves me a lot but she sometimes gets wild on me because she thinks i’ve done a terrible mistake to have sex with my wife even when i dont love her. What should i do to convince my girlfriend?
Answer: Frankly, you are not single, how can you ask someone to marry you when you are married? You seem to be moving a bit fast??? There is a lot of honest information missing from your comment / question. However one might wonder if you always run away when you are not able to love someone else? Getting a divorce because your wife attempted suicide? Sounds like she needs all the help and love she can get. As to your girlfriend, she is probably feeling quite insecure with you, with good reason. You are still married, and honestly many men will go to bed with a woman just to get their sexual desires fulfilled. That’s what you were doing right? So what changes with a new woman? And what are you going to do when tough times come between you and this woman, seek another? Love is a commitment, it does not blow away like a leaf in the wind.