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      A Good Wife Realization, Being A Good Wife Tips

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      What is a good wife? How do you know when your wife is a blessing? For many men, it’s when they realize the treasure that they have been given through correspondent observation. For many women, it’s when they understand their role within the partnership. What is a wife? A simplistic definition of a wife is; a married woman; a man’s partner in marriage. So a wife is a partner, and a partner is defined as; an associate who works together towards common goals.

      No a wife is not something a man takes to fulfill his own desires, nor is a wife just a title after she says I do. In Genesis 2:24 it says; For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. They shall become one flesh; sounds like partners, they have now become united. They are each others companions, each others best friend, each others lover, and each others support, (assuming they work in unison).

      When a husband and a wife are joined together there is unity. Unity is a state of togetherness, wholeness, and completeness. It’s a tandem working in harmony. A tandem is described as a group of two or more, arranged one behind the other, or used or acting in conjunction. So a wife is a half of the unity. Husbands, wives, are you seeing this? You are not to be acting separately toward your own personal goals, but to the benefit of the whole. You can not operate together with singular intentions. This brings up the question, are you working together in your relationship? Honestly answering this may give you some insight into any dysfunctional areas of your marriage.

      For cognizant realization of what a good wife is, and how you can distinguish how well a wife plays her role we can look to what God says about a good wife. First a word of caution here; wives, don’t try to live up to all these things, you are not perfect, and husbands don’t expect perfection, but instead look for areas of congruency. Starting with Proverbs 12:4; An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones. It says that a good wife is the crown of her husband; behind or along side of every good husband is an excellent wife, (there is that partnership again). Furthermore wives, your husbands want you to stand beside them, showing respect is one huge way of showing your love for them. Proverbs 31:12; She helps him and never harms him all the days of her life. As it says in Genesis, God made man a helper and called her woman, she is to be working with him, as it says in Ephesians 5:22-23; Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. Sometimes this verse is taken out of context, in some versions it says for the wives to be submissive to their husbands. Warning this does not mean that the husband is given free reign to control, manipulate, or abuse his wife by any means, he is to love her, for this is a partnership. Ephesians 5:33 says; Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.

      When a man understands what a good wife is, he sees the beauty of her. Wives, notice what it says in 1 Peter 3:3-4; Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. Too many women have become captive to secular thought burdens that say that beauty is all about outward looks. Ladies your true beauty will radiate outward from within you regardless of your external appearance. As it is said in Matthew 23:26; First clean the inside of the cup, so that its outside may also be clean.

      An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels, (Proverbs 18:22). What is an excellent wife? One who has some of the attributes within this message. Proverbs 18:22 says; He who finds a wife finds a good thing And obtains favor from the LORD. A wife is meant to be a cooperator, not the operator or non-operator. With a co-pilot two can better navigate toward common goals, and in cooperative motion, the pilot and copilot may switch off as needed for the better of the whole. Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? (Ecclesiastes 4:9-11). A husband and wife are joined in a cooperative partnership where they are to work in togetherness through love.

      In Psalm 128:3 it says; Your wife will be like a fruitful grapevine, flourishing within your home. Your children will be like vigorous young olive trees as they sit around your table. A good wife is like a fruitful vine, she flourishes within the home, and cares for the children. A good wife is a blessing, as it says in Proverbs 31:11; Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. A good wife speaks well and highly of him to all she comes in contact with! Proverbs 31:26 When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness. A good wife is a loving wife. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: "Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all." (Proverbs 31:29-30).

      Husbands, does your wife do things out of love for you? Let me rephrase that, are you noticing the things that your wife is doing out of love for you? If you look intently, is she fulfilling some aspects that enrich your life or that are in cooperative alignment with the needs of everyone, including yourself? I would venture to say that sometimes we take things for granted, and we miss the blessing we have in the wife or husband that God gave us to cherish. Yes, there are some exceptions to this, but much of the time it is due to the lack of healthy perspectives, is the cup half full or half empty?


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      4 Responses to “A Good Wife Realization, Being A Good Wife Tips”

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        Eileen Says:

        Hi,

        I have just read your article on “Being a good wife”. I think it is a beautiful article all things being equal. The comments made are perfectly in order. However, there are some situations which you are sometimes faced with, and you really do not know how to deal with them.

        I am 58 and has been married for 33 years. My husband and I have been living in the same house in an estranged relationship for the past 24 years. this I know might sound ridiculeous but it is true. We share the finances of the house but we have no phyisical relationship. The truth be told be hardly speak to each other. There are times when it is hard to handle, most times you try not to let it get to you.

        We have two grown children. To some extent, I think our lives have affected those of our children. My daughter who was married is now divorced. My son is not a confident person despite the fact that overtly it might appear so.

        About 2 years ago I became intimate with someone, but because I am a christian< I had no peace with myself. So I terminated it. It has just left me sad. Because as human being I have needs too.

        My husband is 62 and has had sexual disfunctionality for almost all of our active married life. For that reason I cannot find it in my heart to get up and leave him, as it would be very hard for him to have a relationship in that area. I have made up my mind not to leave him, but I again I must say I am very sad.

        Answer: It does not sound like you are relating at any level, and relationship is a two way street. Although a sexual dysfunction can certainly have an impact, sex alone does not make a relationship. How do you think he feels about this issue, I mean, really deep down? Probably fairly inadequate, unworthy, and worthless, that is a pretty difficult place for a man to be. Now, there are a lot of things that are not known from your comments. I wonder what the doctors have said about the dysfunctional issue, but I also wonder how are both of your relationships with God? True joy comes from God, so it sounds like there is a relational problem there as well. First seek the kingdom of heaven and all these things will be given unto you.

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        Esther Says:

        I have just read this articles of Being a good Wife I am married since last year and have one kid, i admire your advices, they are helpful to me. However, most of husbands including mine love sex and this mean love to them, the bad part of it is that they want to rush before the woman is not ready which leads to unsatisfaction on woman’s side. How good can a woman be at this point?

        Answer: Communicate with the man, he does not think like a woman… because he is not one. Talk with him clearly, in a way he will understand, let him know that just like the pregame show for his favorite sporting event, you need some pregame too. Then tell him what kind of pregame events would excite you.

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        Chelle Says:

        Hi , thank you so much for this Article “Being a good wife” … I’ve been married for 7 years now and have one child.. Before we got married my husband been in so many relationship and he has a fiancée back home that I know about it… I got pregnant then he choose me and we got married…but all this years I always caught him email or chatting with his past girls and most of all with his old fiancée… We always talk and try to discuss and fix things and we do .. But .. I thought it’s done and it happened again this summer I caught an email again … It so painful for my part and I don’t know what to do. I Love my family and I love my husband, but I feel like he is cheating on me and just playing with me… Everytime I ask him about our relationship he always said he loves me that’s why he still here with me…I always feel that until now communication between both of them still going on…..I don’t know what to do.

        Answer: Most women want to feel like they are the chosen one, the special one, the one and only, and they should be made to feel that way. However, guys aren’t always good about showing that, and at other times the women are insecure in their relationship. Sometimes that is due to previous hurts from past relationships reliving themselves in today. I am under the impression that this old fiancée lives in another area. Does your husband spend time with you? Does he come home after work to be with his family, or is he out a lot? When you talk, do you let him know how his actions make you feel? How is the intimate part of your relationship? Is it possible that he may be seeking to fulfill some emotional needs that are not being met by you? Sometimes when people do not feel worthy of maintaining a loving relationship, they end up withdrawing too much, to avoid hurts, (they remember the past things that happened and think it’s happening again), could that be an issue on your side?

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        ID Says:

        Thanks for this article “being a good wife”. I am 30 and in love with a man of 57, divorced with two children. He wants us to get married but live in separate countries. I am not comfortable with that arrangement but that is what he wants. I am confused but am sure i love him.

        Comment: I don’t know why anyone would be comfortable with that, it’s hard to have a relationship without the other person.

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