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True Love Feelings, Emotional Feelings Of Love
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The feelings of love we feel come from an initiation of love, where love intercommunicates loving intentions. The feelings of love follow the affections of love by way of love intentionality. In other words, love feelings follow loving actions. Love feelings are felt within our hearts, we feel the love that others touch us with, and our emotions rise in response to the love that we feel. Everybody wants to feel the emotional feelings associated with love, and the feelings that accompany loves euphoria.
The emotional feelings of love bring us to a feeling of elation, an exhilarating psychological state of great joy. Often it is our ability to appreciate the love that we receive that elevates our emotional feelings. However we sometimes allow our feelings to overtake us in the early stages of our relationships and we actually become infatuated. These feelings of euphoria may actually lead us into infatuation, which is an object of extravagant short-lived passion. These feelings of love, (misrepresented as love), are usually associated to exuberant passion, in temporary admiration. Many times it is due to this infatuated state that people become hurt because they are unable to control their emotional feelings.
The feelings associated with infatuation are more common among adolescents and younger adults. There are plenty of young women who are so taken by their feelings, and their hormones, that they give themselves away prematurely. They then wonder, and seek to answer the question; If he had sex with me does that mean he loves me? The answer to that question is no, having sex with you does not mean that he loves you. It means that he lusts you, and you lusted him, you had sexual feelings, not love feelings. Unfortunately, our society and it's cultural teachings associate sex to love, when in reality, sex outside of the context of marriage is generally lust driven. It's generally a self absorbing physical desire to selfishly meet ones own physical mania. Sex alone does not meet loves criteria, because love is not self seeking. Love feelings follow love actions, sexual feelings often follow reactions to lust driven desires. We are all human, and we all experience the desires of our flesh, however true love feelings are associated with a deep relational bonding, not just physical intimacy.
Everyone has a desire to be loved and to naturally feel the feelings that accompany love. Remember though that the feelings come in reaction to the love that is expressed. This means that love must first be bestowed in order for the feelings of love to follow. So for you to be feeling the feelings of love means that someone had to express, show, or convey love to you in some form or fashion. It is at this juncture that many people get stuck, they get stuck on their own self interests, they like the love, so they selfishly look to acquire more for themselves. Kind of sounds a lot like what people do with money right? We all battle with inward selfishness and our culture teaches us that more is better, (more for ourselves). Love does not seek it's own desires, it looks to fulfill the needs of others.
If you are feeling the feelings of love, wouldn't you want to know that your spouse or partner is also having those same feelings? Love begins by presentation, show love to your husband, give love to your wife, and they too will enjoy the feelings of love. There are many people who ask the question; how do I get my husband to love me? or.. How do I get my girlfriend to love me? Simply, start with your own loving behavior, quit thinking about what you want to receive and start giving love to them. Ignite their love feelings, and thus the responses to love, by your own initiation. Make love a habit, you can not spread love onto others and not receive it yourself. Kiss me and kiss me again, for your love is sweeter than wine. Song Of Songs 1:2
Intention is multiplied by action, act your way into a loving behavior and you will accomplish loving feelings. Execute love, seek to satisfy the needs of your wife, girlfriend, husband, or boyfriend. Provide love an opening to bring about those feelings of love. Supply love like oxygen, and the love feelings will follow. We must show love through actions that are sincere, not through empty words. 1 John 3:18
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23
This is my prayer for you: that your love will grow more and more, and that you will have knowledge and understanding with your love. Philippians 1:9
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January 4th, 2013 at 6:57 am
I am a devoted christian and i will be turning 29 soon. I have kept myself all these years, hoping for a God fearing man to find me. I had a revelation 2 years ago and it’s related to whom i shall marry(God didn’t give me the name directly) it was more like character-wise instructions. My friends sometimes pick on me because they think i am too extreme with my Christianity. I don’t drink, don’t club and i don’t mess around…I’m quite strict and disciplined and yet i get criticized for that a lot…There’s this guy i truly like and can’t wait for him to ask me out. He is not cute but God fearing, committed through fruitful service in his church. I see him maybe once in a month but i can’t stop thinking about him….i feel like God is taking forever..well i know he makes everything beautiful in his time and i should not give God a deadline…i guess i just need someone to talk to…i fast and pray from time to time so i won’t lose my mind…i know i’m supposed to live above my emotions n stuff….I have so much to talk about….so much….
COMMENT: So why don’t you ask him if he’d like to get a cup of coffee?
September 16th, 2012 at 12:59 am
my boyfriend is having a baby with another lady….its so hard for me to let go…i love him so much…nd i know he loves me too…please advise me cos i'm a tight corner now,
REPLY; Too often people think with their feelings and not with their heads, it’s very common in these matters. Just so you are aware of it, this is what you are doing. Based on your emotions I suspect you too gave yourself away prematurely, right? Just because a man wants to have sex with you does not mean that he loves you. Furthermore if he has sex with another lady, then he certainly does NOT love you. How could he love you and turn around and do that? That is a selfish act, not an act of love. You should be happy that you are not the one that is pregnant, and that you get another chance to get it right. Next time, control yourself, build a foundation based on friendship and do not give yourself away until you are married. Otherwise you disrespect yourself and you allow another to not only take advantage of you, but to disrespect you as well.
July 17th, 2012 at 4:06 am
i have been dating a guy over a couple of months and he have never tell me he love me but always say he have feelings for me and he like me.my question is,is feelings stronger than love?
RESPONSE: Although they may be associated together, love and feelings art two different things. Feelings come from your emotions, and emotions do not think well, people often allow their over zealous emotions to rule their thinking, sometimes calling it love when it’s only lust or infatuation. Love is an act, love requires action, if a man buys you a ring and asks you to marry him, there is action. If he can not say he loves you, then either he does not know, (perhaps unsure), is not ready to commit at that level yet, or does not love you. The problem is you want to hear it, REALLY BAD! Don’t make the mistake of giving yourself away just cause you want to hear it, many women make that mistake.
January 12th, 2012 at 5:03 pm
have been in a relationship for 4years, and we really want to settle down for each other (marriage) so he proposed i accepted and we’ve been courting for 2years of course he gave me a ring and now he being delaying the marriage for his reason of getting a big wedding occasion. I feel he is not taking me serious because i cook for him, cleans his apartment and even have sex with him sometimes when he really disturbs for it. I feel he get all he want and so he doesn’t care how i feel about being engaged for so long with nothing to show for it.
RESPONSE: Typical trap many women end up in. You gave yourself away prematurely, and now you can not get the commitment you desire. For a high percentage of men, as long as they get sex, they do not think there is a need to commit. Since you are in it now, I would suggest that you tell him that true love requires commitment, abstain from sex, and move out until your vows are official. Or continue to allow yourself to be disrespected.
November 9th, 2011 at 12:25 pm
i am married but I no longer love my husband. I am in love with someone else. pls advice
RESPONSE: Looking for someone to tell you it’s ok? Not going to happen here, you will just end up in the same place later! Love is something that is set into action, it is intentional in that aspect. Loving someone requires putting off oneself and focusing on their needs, not ones “fleshy desires” for fulfillment. You are married, and if you have not been abused, then I would say that you and your current husband need to learn what love is and how to love. And then include the context of appreciation for the love given to you. Appreciation brings transformation, and it is better to understand than it is to be understood. Did you read the article on Lost Your Love Feelings?
November 3rd, 2011 at 2:01 pm
I started dating another guy, shortly after the death after my former boyfriend. I thought he was just doing it out of pity, but he reassured me he cared. He’s a Jehovah’s Witness, am not. He asked if i could change, but said its very difficult, but i was considering it, kind of.
He has no job and money, but i’ve tried to love him for who he is, i push away other guys, just cos of him. But he tells me not to do so and decided that our relationship should be an open one. We’ve had misunderstanding because of this and sometimes, i feel, since, i spend the little i get, on him, he’ll leave me when he makes money and i expressed this feeling in a harsh manner. I got sick, he had exams to write, i kept asking if he loved me, cos he didnt have my time. Two weeks later, he comes to visit, and tells me he had no money and decided the relationship should be an open one, since am not getting any younger and he doesn’t have money to take care of me. I cried and pleaded that we should go back to the way we were but he still insists that he’s been fair. We still talk and tell ourselves ‘i love u’
Is this infatuation?
RESPONSE: First, outside of needed healing, why would you have to change? Especially with regards to a cult like erroneous belief system? Second, are those words; “I Love You” consistent with actions? What is this open relationship thing? Is that he gets to have his “cake and eat it too”? Did you already give yourself away? You might consider taking a step back and getting control of your emotions while making sure that it is your brain doing the thinking and not your emotions… or your desires to fill a gap that you feel is empty. Ever watch a dog chasing it’s tail? Sometimes we circle around looking for what we think we need, when what we really need has been there all along. There is a place inside of you that only God can fill. Matthew 6:33; But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
As to the Jehovah’s Witness thing, you should do some serious looking into that! Get a basic understanding what Jehovah’s Witness are about and then consider these biblical scriptures: 1 Timothy 4:1 to 4:4;
1 The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the
faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons. 2 Such
teachings come through hypocritical liars, whose consciences have been seared as with a hot iron. 3 They forbid people to marry and order them to abstain from certain foods, which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and who know the truth. 4 For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, 5 because it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer.
As to their teachings and belief system:
Watch your life and doctrine closely. Persevere in them, because if you do, you will save both yourself and your hearers. 1 Timothy 4:16
Where is the wise man? Where is the scribe? Where is the debater of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of the world? 1 Corinthians 1:20
You adulteresses, do you not know that friendship with the world is
hostility toward God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. James 4:4
Is Christ divided? Was Paul crucified for you? Were you baptized into
the name of Paul? 1 Corinthians 1:13
October 1st, 2011 at 5:28 pm
So I like this guy, and he likes me, but he is to old for me and we both know it. And I also like a guy my age that is REALLY cute and sweet, but he has a girlfriend… What should I do?
COMMENT: Slow down & get a good understanding of what infatuation is. It’s more important to be good friends, than it is to be kissing in the moonlight.