Comments on: True Love Feelings, Emotional Feelings Of Love http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/index.php/emotional-feelings/96/true-feelings-of-love-feelings/ Love Advice, Relationships Guide, Love Tips Fri, 20 Jan 2012 05:18:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Eucharia http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/index.php/emotional-feelings/96/true-feelings-of-love-feelings/comment-page-1/#comment-3494 Eucharia Fri, 13 Jan 2012 00:03:38 +0000 http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/?p=96#comment-3494 have been in a relationship for 4years, and we really want to settle down for each other (marriage) so he proposed i accepted and we've been courting for 2years of course he gave me a ring and now he being delaying the marriage for his reason of getting a big wedding occasion. I feel he is not taking me serious because i cook for him, cleans his apartment and even have sex with him sometimes when he really disturbs for it. I feel he get all he want and so he doesn't care how i feel about being engaged for so long with nothing to show for it. RESPONSE: Typical trap many women end up in. You gave yourself away prematurely, and now you can not get the commitment you desire. For a high percentage of men, as long as they get sex, they do not think there is a need to commit. Since you are in it now, I would suggest that you tell him that true love requires commitment, abstain from sex, and move out until your vows are official. Or continue to allow yourself to be disrespected. have been in a relationship for 4years, and we really want to settle down for each other (marriage) so he proposed i accepted and we’ve been courting for 2years of course he gave me a ring and now he being delaying the marriage for his reason of getting a big wedding occasion. I feel he is not taking me serious because i cook for him, cleans his apartment and even have sex with him sometimes when he really disturbs for it. I feel he get all he want and so he doesn’t care how i feel about being engaged for so long with nothing to show for it.

RESPONSE: Typical trap many women end up in. You gave yourself away prematurely, and now you can not get the commitment you desire. For a high percentage of men, as long as they get sex, they do not think there is a need to commit. Since you are in it now, I would suggest that you tell him that true love requires commitment, abstain from sex, and move out until your vows are official. Or continue to allow yourself to be disrespected.

]]> By: evelyn http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/index.php/emotional-feelings/96/true-feelings-of-love-feelings/comment-page-1/#comment-3301 evelyn Wed, 09 Nov 2011 19:25:49 +0000 http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/?p=96#comment-3301 i am married but I no longer love my husband. I am in love with someone else. pls advice RESPONSE: Looking for someone to tell you it's ok? Not going to happen here, you will just end up in the same place later! Love is something that is set into action, it is intentional in that aspect. Loving someone requires putting off oneself and focusing on their needs, not ones "fleshy desires" for fulfillment. You are married, and if you have not been abused, then I would say that you and your current husband need to learn what love is and how to love. And then include the context of appreciation for the love given to you. Appreciation brings transformation, and it is better to understand than it is to be understood. Did you read the article on <a href="http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/index.php/emotional-feelings/481/not-in-love-with-you/" rel="nofollow">Lost Your Love Feelings?</a i am married but I no longer love my husband. I am in love with someone else. pls advice

RESPONSE: Looking for someone to tell you it’s ok? Not going to happen here, you will just end up in the same place later! Love is something that is set into action, it is intentional in that aspect. Loving someone requires putting off oneself and focusing on their needs, not ones “fleshy desires” for fulfillment. You are married, and if you have not been abused, then I would say that you and your current husband need to learn what love is and how to love. And then include the context of appreciation for the love given to you. Appreciation brings transformation, and it is better to understand than it is to be understood. Did you read the article on Lost Your Love Feelings?

]]> By: Jasmine http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/index.php/emotional-feelings/96/true-feelings-of-love-feelings/comment-page-1/#comment-3300 Jasmine Thu, 03 Nov 2011 21:01:52 +0000 http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/?p=96#comment-3300 I started dating another guy, shortly after the death after my former boyfriend. I thought he was just doing it out of pity, but he reassured me he cared. He's a Jehovah's Witness, am not. He asked if i could change, but said its very difficult, but i was considering it, kind of. He has no job and money, but i've tried to love him for who he is, i push away other guys, just cos of him. But he tells me not to do so and decided that our relationship should be an open one. We've had misunderstanding because of this and sometimes, i feel, since, i spend the little i get, on him, he'll leave me when he makes money and i expressed this feeling in a harsh manner. I got sick, he had exams to write, i kept asking if he loved me, cos he didnt have my time. Two weeks later, he comes to visit, and tells me he had no money and decided the relationship should be an open one, since am not getting any younger and he doesn't have money to take care of me. I cried and pleaded that we should go back to the way we were but he still insists that he's been fair. We still talk and tell ourselves 'i love u' Is this infatuation? <br> RESPONSE: First, outside of needed healing, why would you have to change? Especially with regards to a cult like erroneous belief system? Second, are those words; "I Love You" consistent with actions? What is this open relationship thing? Is that he gets to have his "cake and eat it too"? Did you already give yourself away? You might consider taking a step back and getting control of your emotions while making sure that it is your brain doing the thinking and not your emotions... or your desires to fill a gap that you feel is empty. Ever watch a dog chasing it's tail? Sometimes we circle around looking for what we think we need, when what we really need has been there all along. There is a place inside of you that only God can fill. Matthew 6:33; But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. <br> As to the Jehovah's Witness thing, you should do some serious looking into that! <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jehovah's_Witnesses/" rel="nofollow">Get a basic understanding</a> what Jehovah's Witness are about and then consider these biblical scriptures: 1 Timothy 4:1 to 4:4; 1 The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons. 2 Such teachings come through hypocritical liars, whose consciences have been seared as with a hot iron. 3 They forbid people to marry and order them to abstain from certain foods, which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and who know the truth. 4 For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, 5 because it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer. <br> As to their teachings and belief system: Watch your life and doctrine closely. Persevere in them, because if you do, you will save both yourself and your hearers. 1 Timothy 4:16 <br> Where is the wise man? Where is the scribe? Where is the debater of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of the world? 1 Corinthians 1:20 <br> You adulteresses, do you not know that friendship with the world is hostility toward God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. James 4:4 <br> Is Christ divided? Was Paul crucified for you? Were you baptized into the name of Paul? 1 Corinthians 1:13 I started dating another guy, shortly after the death after my former boyfriend. I thought he was just doing it out of pity, but he reassured me he cared. He’s a Jehovah’s Witness, am not. He asked if i could change, but said its very difficult, but i was considering it, kind of.
He has no job and money, but i’ve tried to love him for who he is, i push away other guys, just cos of him. But he tells me not to do so and decided that our relationship should be an open one. We’ve had misunderstanding because of this and sometimes, i feel, since, i spend the little i get, on him, he’ll leave me when he makes money and i expressed this feeling in a harsh manner. I got sick, he had exams to write, i kept asking if he loved me, cos he didnt have my time. Two weeks later, he comes to visit, and tells me he had no money and decided the relationship should be an open one, since am not getting any younger and he doesn’t have money to take care of me. I cried and pleaded that we should go back to the way we were but he still insists that he’s been fair. We still talk and tell ourselves ‘i love u’
Is this infatuation?

RESPONSE: First, outside of needed healing, why would you have to change? Especially with regards to a cult like erroneous belief system? Second, are those words; “I Love You” consistent with actions? What is this open relationship thing? Is that he gets to have his “cake and eat it too”? Did you already give yourself away? You might consider taking a step back and getting control of your emotions while making sure that it is your brain doing the thinking and not your emotions… or your desires to fill a gap that you feel is empty. Ever watch a dog chasing it’s tail? Sometimes we circle around looking for what we think we need, when what we really need has been there all along. There is a place inside of you that only God can fill. Matthew 6:33; But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

As to the Jehovah’s Witness thing, you should do some serious looking into that! Get a basic understanding what Jehovah’s Witness are about and then consider these biblical scriptures: 1 Timothy 4:1 to 4:4;
1 The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the
faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons. 2 Such
teachings come through hypocritical liars, whose consciences have been seared as with a hot iron. 3 They forbid people to marry and order them to abstain from certain foods, which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and who know the truth. 4 For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, 5 because it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer.

As to their teachings and belief system:
Watch your life and doctrine closely. Persevere in them, because if you do, you will save both yourself and your hearers. 1 Timothy 4:16

Where is the wise man? Where is the scribe? Where is the debater of this age? Has not God made foolish the wisdom of the world? 1 Corinthians 1:20

You adulteresses, do you not know that friendship with the world is
hostility toward God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. James 4:4

Is Christ divided? Was Paul crucified for you? Were you baptized into
the name of Paul? 1 Corinthians 1:13

]]> By: Josophene http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/index.php/emotional-feelings/96/true-feelings-of-love-feelings/comment-page-1/#comment-3123 Josophene Sun, 02 Oct 2011 00:28:43 +0000 http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/?p=96#comment-3123 So I like this guy, and he likes me, but he is to old for me and we both know it. And I also like a guy my age that is REALLY cute and sweet, but he has a girlfriend... What should I do? :( COMMENT: Slow down & get a good understanding of what infatuation is. It's more important to be good friends, than it is to be kissing in the moonlight. So I like this guy, and he likes me, but he is to old for me and we both know it. And I also like a guy my age that is REALLY cute and sweet, but he has a girlfriend… What should I do? :(

COMMENT: Slow down & get a good understanding of what infatuation is. It’s more important to be good friends, than it is to be kissing in the moonlight.

]]> By: gugu http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/index.php/emotional-feelings/96/true-feelings-of-love-feelings/comment-page-1/#comment-3053 gugu Sun, 25 Sep 2011 04:13:55 +0000 http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/?p=96#comment-3053 I first found that my husband was texting his ex-girlfriend from 20 years back. Got mad and left him for 24hrs. He told me nothing was happening, just a mistake that he reminded this woman how he felt b4. A week later saw a love note from another number, this one he said yes he has an affair with this woman, I got mad and hurt him very bad something I never thought I was capable of. He tells me that he loves, yes he has been sending me love messages, long b4 I saw all this. YOU SHOULD <a href="http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/index.php/sexual-intimacy-love-making/27/affairs-cheating-sex/" rel="nofollow">Read This</a> I first found that my husband was texting his ex-girlfriend from 20 years back. Got mad and left him for 24hrs. He told me nothing was happening, just a mistake that he reminded this woman how he felt b4. A week later saw a love note from another number, this one he said yes he has an affair with this woman, I got mad and hurt him very bad something I never thought I was capable of. He tells me that he loves, yes he has been sending me love messages, long b4 I saw all this.

YOU SHOULD Read This

]]> By: Deborah http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/index.php/emotional-feelings/96/true-feelings-of-love-feelings/comment-page-1/#comment-3028 Deborah Wed, 14 Sep 2011 22:15:12 +0000 http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/?p=96#comment-3028 Hello there!! I have been in my first relationship for 2 1/2 years now. My partner and I are both women...I am 44 and she is 34. We started our relationship and were very close for awhile. She has a tendency to bring out a lot of my flaws while we are fighting...and that hurts me!!! Thanks for being there and for reading my message!!!! Deb (by the way we are both from Brazil, but I have been here for 24 years and she's been here for 3 years). COMMENT: People want resolutions for their problems, but they usually want them their way. Most are not open to dealing with the deep truths, the truths at the root of their problems that must be resolved in order to bring about healthy change. In order to understand others, you must first understand yourself. You both need to get in touch with your deeper selves, you both are harboring some deep pains from the past. These pains could be from childhood or from a traumatic event, the problem is these pains are still there. And these pains continue to play out in some fashion or manner everyday in your lives. Hello there!!

I have been in my first relationship for 2 1/2 years now. My partner and I are both women…I am 44 and she is 34. We started our relationship and were very close for awhile. She has a tendency to bring out a lot of my flaws while we are fighting…and that hurts me!!! Thanks for being there and for reading my message!!!! Deb (by the way we are both from Brazil, but I have been here for 24 years and she’s been here for 3 years).

COMMENT: People want resolutions for their problems, but they usually want them their way. Most are not open to dealing with the deep truths, the truths at the root of their problems that must be resolved in order to bring about healthy change. In order to understand others, you must first understand yourself. You both need to get in touch with your deeper selves, you both are harboring some deep pains from the past. These pains could be from childhood or from a traumatic event, the problem is these pains are still there. And these pains continue to play out in some fashion or manner everyday in your lives.

]]> By: Rachel http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/index.php/emotional-feelings/96/true-feelings-of-love-feelings/comment-page-1/#comment-3021 Rachel Fri, 26 Aug 2011 15:02:00 +0000 http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/?p=96#comment-3021 Oh my, after reading some of these comments, it makes you wonder if love is a good thing. So often, we mistake what the world thinks love is for what God says love is. Love is more than feelings and infatuation, it's a choice to do all those things that characterize it, such as, having patience, being kind, and never giving up even when that's what you feel like. Sometimes, loving someone takes giving them and your relationship to God and asking Him to do what's best. We are only held accountable for our actions, and we need to leave other's actions in the capable hands of God. Thanks for the post! Oh my, after reading some of these comments, it makes you wonder if love is a good thing. So often, we mistake what the world thinks love is for what God says love is. Love is more than feelings and infatuation, it’s a choice to do all those things that characterize it, such as, having patience, being kind, and never giving up even when that’s what you feel like. Sometimes, loving someone takes giving them and your relationship to God and asking Him to do what’s best. We are only held accountable for our actions, and we need to leave other’s actions in the capable hands of God. Thanks for the post!

]]> By: Paul http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/index.php/emotional-feelings/96/true-feelings-of-love-feelings/comment-page-1/#comment-2992 Paul Mon, 18 Jul 2011 21:36:28 +0000 http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/?p=96#comment-2992 My fiance' and me just recently broke up 2 days after our anniversary. I'm not a religious man, but highly spiritual. Only saying that because I see you resource to the bible for a lot of things and I don't believe all the answers are in the bible written by man. Now I am deployed in Afghanistan and have been here for 9 months now. During the last two months it feels like she is pulling away from me, and finally 2 days after our anniversary she told me she wants to wait till I come home. And left me. She says I changed, that I'm jealous and angry all the time. I agree... So I'm seeking help from professionals for PTSD and trying hard. She tells me she loves me but still pushes me away, but when I ask her if she's pushing me away she says no and apologizes. I don't know what to do.. Some days I get upset and wish I could just say forget it. But I have deep feelings of love for her, and I trust her immensely and she has deep feelings of love for me. I'm just hoping we can last till I'm home to fix this. RESPONSE: Herein lies the biggest issue with people today, everybody wants help, like you, but they want it their way. In your case without God, so let me ask you...... how has "without God" been working for you? It does not sound very good, ya know? Now you make an excuse, (YES AN EXCUSE), saying that you don't believe all the answers in the bible written by man. This is YOUR AVOIDANCE, go ahead and check yourself honestly. Have you ever read the bible? You need the truth, you don't know what you don't know. And you are not going to know until humility becomes a significant part of your character. Gain understanding, God made you for a purpose, he formed you in your mothers womb just like everyone else. He is the maker of Relationships, so why would you want to avoid the wisdom that could resolve all your difficulties? Let me give you a definition of love Gods way: Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Compared to that, how was your definition? I bet yours can not even compare. My fiance’ and me just recently broke up 2 days after our anniversary. I’m not a religious man, but highly spiritual. Only saying that because I see you resource to the bible for a lot of things and I don’t believe all the answers are in the bible written by man. Now I am deployed in Afghanistan and have been here for 9 months now. During the last two months it feels like she is pulling away from me, and finally 2 days after our anniversary she told me she wants to wait till I come home. And left me. She says I changed, that I’m jealous and angry all the time. I agree… So I’m seeking help from professionals for PTSD and trying hard. She tells me she loves me but still pushes me away, but when I ask her if she’s pushing me away she says no and apologizes. I don’t know what to do.. Some days I get upset and wish I could just say forget it. But I have deep feelings of love for her, and I trust her immensely and she has deep feelings of love for me. I’m just hoping we can last till I’m home to fix this.

RESPONSE: Herein lies the biggest issue with people today, everybody wants help, like you, but they want it their way. In your case without God, so let me ask you…… how has “without God” been working for you? It does not sound very good, ya know?

Now you make an excuse, (YES AN EXCUSE), saying that you don’t believe all the answers in the bible written by man. This is YOUR AVOIDANCE, go ahead and check yourself honestly. Have you ever read the bible? You need the truth, you don’t know what you don’t know. And you are not going to know until humility becomes a significant part of your character.

Gain understanding, God made you for a purpose, he formed you in your mothers womb just like everyone else. He is the maker of Relationships, so why would you want to avoid the wisdom that could resolve all your difficulties? Let me give you a definition of love Gods way:
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud
or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable,
and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice
about injustice but rejoices whenever truth wins out. Love never
gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures
through every circumstance. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Compared to that, how was your definition? I bet yours can not even compare.

]]> By: amiya http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/index.php/emotional-feelings/96/true-feelings-of-love-feelings/comment-page-1/#comment-2871 amiya Tue, 25 Jan 2011 17:13:28 +0000 http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/?p=96#comment-2871 i am in a relationship with a girl for last 3 years. but now i am liking another girl more than her and i m really serious about the second one . when i look at her i really thinks that i can't live without her. what should i do???? COMMENT: Get a clear and precise understanding of what lust is, what infatuation is, and what love is, then you will know better. Read the bible. i am in a relationship with a girl for last 3 years. but now i am liking another girl more than her and i m really serious about the second one . when i look at her i really thinks that i can’t live without her. what should i do????

COMMENT: Get a clear and precise understanding of what lust is, what infatuation is, and what love is, then you will know better. Read the bible.

]]> By: Ben http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/index.php/emotional-feelings/96/true-feelings-of-love-feelings/comment-page-1/#comment-2838 Ben Mon, 06 Dec 2010 00:13:19 +0000 http://www.flowinglove.com/relationships/?p=96#comment-2838 Love is so annoying and unfair does I love so much doesn't love me. I'm going out with a lady who doesn't wont to marry me. she loves me, but like me as a friend for the past 3 years, but I love here very much. because she is the meaning of my life. The only time I feel the beauty of life, true happiness is when i'm with she... I'm 32 years and she is 24, all my life I've fall in love like this before. I'm now a thinker at night, I'm getting crazy. she thought me how to love and the meaning of love. she has blinded me with her beauty, i just don't no but i don't believe in ladies any more... I always feel so bad when i think about love, I feel so empty without her, so useless... I just don't no weather something is wrong with me and she wouldn't tell me what is wrong with me. i thought love is beautiful, great and wonderful. is this the meaning of love.... Comment: Although we all have the desire to be loved, love itself is giving, it is not self focused. Put your focus on Jesus and you will know love greater than any one person could ever give you. Often times relationships evolve from friendships to courtships, sometimes they remain friendships. Enjoy the love of your friendship, seek to appreciate what there is to be appreciated in that, and since there is no commitment, consider making more friends and dating other women. Love is so annoying and unfair does I love so much doesn’t love me. I’m going out with a lady who doesn’t wont to marry me. she loves me, but like me as a friend for the past 3 years, but I love here very much. because she is the meaning of my life. The only time I feel the beauty of life, true happiness is when i’m with she… I’m 32 years and she is 24, all my life I’ve fall in love like this before. I’m now a thinker at night, I’m getting crazy. she thought me how to love and the meaning of love. she has blinded me with her beauty, i just don’t no but i don’t believe in ladies any more… I always feel so bad when i think about love, I feel so empty without her, so useless… I just don’t no weather something is wrong with me and she wouldn’t tell me what is wrong with me. i thought love is beautiful, great and wonderful. is this the meaning of love….

Comment: Although we all have the desire to be loved, love itself is giving, it is not self focused. Put your focus on Jesus and you will know love greater than any one person could ever give you. Often times relationships evolve from friendships to courtships, sometimes they remain friendships. Enjoy the love of your friendship, seek to appreciate what there is to be appreciated in that, and since there is no commitment, consider making more friends and dating other women.

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