Comments on: Best Marriage Advice Before Getting Married, Top 10 Pre-Wedding Tips

By: K. Anumaka

K. Anumaka — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 05:18:58 +0000

I appreciate these tips. They are real and i have touched by them especially Tip 9.. Keep on with this good work and may God continue to strength you. Thanks

By: Ang

Ang — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 22:43:35 +0000

Good article. Very helpful for single people.
Just one qualification that I was missing: many women (and men) do not just “delay” marriage until their 30s+ because of worldly values but because of Godly ones that you have already mentioned; they want to find a spouse who shares their christian values and treats them with respect. I appreciate you were probably not referring to those who wait for God’s choice in your remarks on delays but as both groups are so often lumped together it’s worth distinguishing.

RESPONSE: This article refers to those who are already in qualifying Godly relationship. If you seeking on those grounds, then you would not be in any long standing relationships that are not biblically based anyway, right? So, if you have been building that kind of relationship, based on friendship and Godly principles you do not need to necessarily wait for more years to make sure it is “right”. Too many people get “right” confused with perfect and miss the one God sent to them while they procrastinated. The right one will have the right qualities, and will be right for you, but will not line up to a perfect list, cause no one is perfect.
May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. (Proverbs 5:18).

By: bin

bin — Tue, 13 Sep 2011 04:33:18 +0000

Thank you for this inspiring and beneficial tips of wisdom for those who reflect. Sadly I’ve experience divorce twice and being a God concious person myself, I understand and strongly recommend every tip you’ve mentioned especially tips 3,4 & 5. If you and your partner both share these morals of life , then the rest will be easy because all issues will be solved with God conciousness, kindness, sincerity, honesty, justice, love and understanding .

By: S

Tue, 27 Jul 2010 20:14:57 +0000

In these economic times, I think it is irresponsible to profess that committed couples need not consider money as they plan their lives together (especially when vicious, unethical business practices prey on the impoverished and make getting out of debt nearly impossible–but that’s another story). I am the daughter of two devout, Christian parents who were always loving and charitable, but who also struggled with money to the point of costing me and my 4 siblings valuable opportunities as well as accruing crippling debt that they have yet to manage even now as they are in their fifties. Stress from their money problems also contributed to the demise of their marriage after 17 years. I wish they had planned better (built savings, paid down college loans, paid down mortages) because both are recently bankrupt and cannot co-sign student loans for me or my younger siblings (meaning our student loan interest rates triple, quadruple, or more, adding thousands to the principle balance). As a result, it will take me much longer before I can start my life with a clean slate, and college will be much more difficult for my younger siblings to finance. Despite these mistakes, my parents are intelligent, faith-filled people, who are crushed that they cannot help us financially. Honestly, I do not hold their money mistakes against them because it has taught me to endure the hard realities of life at a young age (I am 22)and above all, I have always felt loved. That said, there is no way that I will make the same mistakes that my parents made. As a result, I am delaying my own marriage, even though I am head-over-heels in love with a good, kind man that I have been dating for 2 and a half years. Simply put, God gave us our common sense, it’s up to us to use it.

REPLY: Love never fails, but selfishness does…. “No servant can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and Money.” Luke 16:13

By: Andrew

Andrew — Sun, 30 May 2010 01:16:24 +0000

I think some of these tips are good. Most are completely illogical and BAD advice for the real world. Christians have a higher divorce rate that non-christians. People who marry young wonder what is out there and then cheat. It is best to date multiple people (not necessarily have sex) before you marry, so that you KNOW yourself much better. That only comes from experience. And the love of money thing? What’s with that? Money is VERY important in a marriage. To say otherwise is completely false. If being with somebody is just for love, then why do we need marriage then? Why do we need a business contract from the state that says if the marriage doesn’t work out then my partner gets half of everything? What does THAT have to do with love?

Answer: True, so called “Christians” do have a ever so slightly higher rate of divorce than do non-christians. Just because people profess to be Christians does not make them Christian, and they are imperfect people just like you. People cheat not because they wonder “whats out there”, they cheat because they are SELFISH, they allow their lust, (not love), to overcome them, Love would not do something that would hurt another….but selfishness would. It is possible that you can get to know yourself a little better by spending time with other people, as other people can see your “blind spots”, areas in you that you are unaware of, accountability partners are great for that, but you don’t have to date them, and they can be the same sex. NO MONEY is not that important, sure you need it, but to put MONEY above the relationship, or to simply get into a relationship for money is selfish.
WHAT? You said: “If being with somebody is just for love, then why do we need marriage then?” Marriage is a relational commitment in love.
Finally, why do you need a marriage certificate? Because people think they know better than God……..just like you, right?

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 11:20:16 +0000

Lol, I like tips no 2. Waiting is wasting time, just get into it when both of you are sure and have at least basic “inputs” to build a household.