Comments on: Fixing Your Spouse, Fixing Your Marriage Wife Fixing My Husband

By: Elijah

Elijah — Tue, 17 May 2011 12:33:26 +0000

My mother in law is an evil woman. She influenced my beautiful wife against me. My wife suddenly became extremely abusive and dangerous. I was almost choking in that relationship as my wife and her mother always abuse me. In time, i started being harsh and aggressive and vowed to get them out of my life. We are separated now but i still care for my wife. She asked for forgiveness saying it was her mother that pushed her against me. Because i vowed never to have anything to do with her again, my pride will not let me talk to nor even communicate with her. I think about her everyday but i am afraid that things may not be the same again. What can i do? The relationship was so messed up by lies, extreme verbal abuse, character assassination, low self esteem etc all coming from my wife.

COMMENT: What you vowed was out of your hurt and anger, your pride is not in the way as much as your pain. You can choose to communicate with her, nobody has your tongue tied except you. I would suggest you both agree to visit a biblical counselor in your area, then humble yourselves and go. Chances are you are going to learn some things that will benefit you both as well as your relationship. Simply, get over yourselves and go.

By: john

john — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 01:08:19 +0000

My wife & I are going through a period that she wants to be seperated because of her anger towards me because I do not use control and display anger verbally. I have sought help and I have been able to see where it has come from and all my wife wants is her “freedom”. She says she doesnt know when and if she will commit to me and I do not want to stand around waiting forever. I think if she cannot decide within a month’s time to make our marriage work, I will go on my way. Do you think this is enough time to decide ?? Her freedom consists of going out to party with friends 4 – 5 times a week while I sit at home every waking moment trying to repair our love.

Thank you for a great article. It has opened me up and has been exactly what I have been doing to understand where my faults are and I will continue everyday to be a better person.

Answer: I would suggest that you tell her that you want to reconcile your marriage and that because you value her and the marriage that you would like to go to counseling together. I would suggest you seek biblical counseling in your area, if you value your marriage. Sounds like she argues for her party habits, that is something else that needs to be resolved, but it would be better with a Christian counselor who will help you both get to the root issues within the relationship.

By: tiffany

tiffany — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 17:14:27 +0000

hi my husband is in the marines and is leaving for iraq friday and all of sudden he dosent want to be with me anymore and we have a son together and just found out we are going to have another what i am to do i love him to death .?

Answer: Hard to tell what he is going through emotionally, but I think you have the right idea. Let him know you love him, every way you can.

By: Brittany

Brittany — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 14:12:08 +0000

I just want to say this message, though hard to read, is true. My husband and I split, me splitting first and myself not wanting to have anything to do with him for a month, and now I do want to reconcile things and he doesn’t. I guess i should just back off.

Answer: Sounds like you have acquired a better appreciation. I would suggest you now pray to God, ask him for wisdom, help, and assistance. Then take ownership of your mistakes, apologize to your husband for them, and ask for forgiveness.

By: Alyssa

Alyssa — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 09:34:13 +0000

After reading your article, its stirred me. For you see, I am currently looking to change, to evolve, not only for myself but for my boyfriend as well. I had been making him carry the brunt of the load of our relationship. The analogy I used with him was that I had given him the whole load and then threw 50 more straws onto his back. Causing his back to break and his heart to ache. So I was wondering if you had any resources that could assist me in my quest for change and equality. Thank you so much for writing this article!

Answer: Exceedingly surpassing everything else, the Bible. Secondary, the other articles on this site, and 3 books; From Dream To Destiny, The Love Dare, and The Five Love Languages.