The quality virtue of humility is a necessary attribute to have in and for healthy marriage relationships. Humility is a yielding door to understanding, insights, and wisdom. Humility is a virtue that is like medicine for relationships and marriages, when applied it shifts the attitudes of our personal constraints. Humility is a humble view of one’s own importance, it is the quality of being humble that comes from a lack of pride. Humility is modest and respectful, it is the quality of not being proud because you are aware of your own imperfections and are willing to humbly accept them.
Humility is a growth mechanism for relational change, you won't change until you become humble enough to admit your own shortcomings. The single biggest issue in problematic relationships and marriages is the lack of humility. If you lack humility, then you are prideful, it is that selfish pride that blocks change in relationships. People do not want to admit that they are imperfect, and because of that, they will not humbly take ownership of their own shortcomings, so their relationships suffer. Folks, your relationship problems begin within you, not with other people, the question is are you humble enough to accept that? I know, you did not want to hear that, it's the blockage within you called pride that prevents your relationships from improving.
How do you know when you lack humility? You know you lack humility when you are always pointing the finger at the other person blaming them for all the problems. You lack humility when you do not accept, or do any self analyzation, where you look at your own faults and weaknesses. You know you lack humility when you won't listen to reason, when you think you know it all, when your pride blocks your own growth. You know you lack humility when you won't accept that you need to learn how to love, and you turn away from your own awakening.
How often do you see a couple fighting where they toss blame back and forth like it was a ping pong ball? They toss it back and forth because they won't accept responsibility for their own mistakes. Often times, they would find that they both played a part in the thing that they are fighting about if they were able to humble their inner pride and be humble enough to actually look with honesty. How often do you hear one partner say something like; "what good is it if they will not change?" If nobody is humble in a relationship, how will the relationship prosper? If both people are full of selfish pride, who is going to benefit? (The dog, cause the dog will get to eat the dinner that was overcome by the lack of humility).
How do you say those three special words, "I Love You", while placing blame on your spouse or partner for something that you have just as much responsibility in? If you can't be honest with your spouse, then you are being selfish for yourself, (selfish pride). When you allow humility in, you open the door for love to flow. With humility you can acquire wisdom that you previously didn't have, your relationships will change when you stop trying to act like your perfect. It takes a more humble, modest, respectful, mature, and loving person to admit their mistakes. Honesty comes by way of humility, and humility by way of maturity.
Humility is nothing but truth, and pride is nothing but lying. — Vincent de Paul
A person who gets too big in the britches will be exposed in the rear end.
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2
Whoever exalts himself shall be humbled; and whoever humbles himself shall be exalted. Matthew 23:12
Do not act out of selfish ambition or conceit, but with humility think of others as being better than yourselves. Philippians 2:3
…with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing tolerance for one another in love, Ephesians 4:2
In a similar way, you young people must submit to the elders. All of you must clothe yourselves with humility for the sake of each other, because: "God opposes the arrogant, but gives grace to the humble." 1 Peter 5:5
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