Learning To Love Requires The Understanding That Love Is Otherness.
Otherness is to love and/or meet the needs of others where and/or how they need it. Therefore it is necessary to intently look for the areas in others that need love, and then attempt to meet those needs. This certainly includes friends, family members, spouses, co-workers, and those you do not know. Life is all about learning to love others in the context of relationships.
Love should not be reserved or shut into a single day. Those who are in relationships or who are married should find ways to love each other on a daily basis. You can have Valentine’s Day, everyday!
Real love will not attempt to manipulate for self centered motivations or gratifications. Love will consider the needs of others and act with intention to fulfill those emotional needs. This is referred to as "otherness". If your partnership is struggling in some manner, consider your otherness mindset. We are all here to learn how to love, life is about far more than what we can acquire for ourselves in love relationships, physical desires, or in materialistic possessions. If we fail to learn the meaning of love and how to love others in our lives, we have missed the meaning of life.
Men and women have different affectional needs, their desires are not the same. Men, find out what your female partners love languages are and then love them in that context. Listen to her and be considerate of her emotional needs, she is not in your life to be a sexual object for self satisfying indulgence. A relationship is far more than just being physically intimate, it encompasses caring, thoughtfulness, companionship, and otherness. Romance is a form of love in which you can, in some manner, incorporate into your daily lives. Make plans to do fun things with her, things you know she will enjoy. She should be your best friend, the most cherished person in your life, your companion, your partner and your lover, all in the same context.
Women to love your husband is to respect him. Yes you want him to do things for you that shows his thoughtfulness and sometimes you may be expecting him to do things that he does not do and you may become disappointed. Avoid setting yourself up for this, expectations are windows to disappointment. Encourage him by communicating to him in ways you know he will understand. Try to motivate him with love, use words of affirmation, love builds up. Understand that he does have a hormonal desire for physical attention, that is the way he was wired. Sexual intimacy for most men is a significant emotional need and it will say to him that you love him.
Men and women are very different, they do not think the same (video), nor do they have the same emotional needs. A couple needs to have sensitivity for each others desires. They also need to communicate with each other clearly, in a manner that they know will be understood by the each other. When two people are being considerate of each other they open the streams in which love can flow. To begin to understand what love is for yourselves, read the following bible scripture.
LOVE is patient and kind;
LOVE is not jealous or boastful;
it is not arrogant or rude.
LOVE does not insist on its own way;
it is not irritable or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrong,
but rejoices in the right.
LOVE bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.
LOVE never ends …
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Please read on to consider how both of you can integrate these love practices into your relationship.
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