What is the first thing you hear from a woman who has left her husband for another man? "He didn’t love me". Which in many cases is probably true, many men do not love their wives in the ways they need to be loved. However, by her saying that, who is she focusing on? She is focusing on herself. So the man is not focusing on meeting the woman’s needs, and the woman is not focusing on meeting the mans needs, leaving each of them with an unmet needs dilemma, and some self-centered issues as well.
Try to understand that if both partners are focusing on meeting one another’s needs, which is what real love does, then both spouses will be far less likely to be tempted to begin with. If a man or a woman is not treating their spouse with love, they themselves are opening the door to temptation. The wisdom of the bible holds true, and tells us to love our neighbors as ourselves. In marriage, your closest neighbor is your spouse. Cheating on a spouse is adultery, it is sexual immorality, no matter what the reason, it is selfish and lacks love. However, chances are that it was due to a lack of love to begin with. In other words, both partners played a part due to a love deficiency in their relationship.
A marriage relationship is a two way street, it requires loving intentions and actions from both partners. Many people believe that if a man cheats on his wife, then he always has, and he always will. You have probably heard the slogan, "once a cheater, always a cheater". What about the slogan, "if you take care of your man, he will take care of you"? Whether you are the husband or the wife in a marriage, your primary objective is to love one another. If you fail to do this, perhaps because you are inwardly focused on yourself, could you really believe that your spouse is 100% at fault for straying? If you fail to love, it’s a sin, if your spouse then commits adultery, it’s a sin. The question is, where was the source of the issue to begin with? Could it have been initiated because you failed to love your spouse? Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time….and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:5
We are here to learn to love, that is what life is all about. We are imperfect beings and have room for growth advancement. Every day we have opportunities to love, if your husband or wife fails to show you love, it’s really an opportunity for you to overcome selfishness and love them despite their shortcomings. All too often when people fail to receive the love they want, they selfishly go out to seek it elsewhere, instead of being a loving example. The bible says in Ephesians 5:28, So husbands must love their wives as they love their own bodies. A man who loves his wife loves himself. Whoever commits adultery with a woman has no sense. Whoever does this destroys himself. Proverbs 6:32
Ladies, do you really think that reserving love accomplishes anything positive? Just because your needs are not being met does not justify a new relationship with someone else. Besides, in many cases you will just end up going through a repeat occurrence, just so you can learn to love. Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout, is a beautiful woman who lacks discretion. Proverbs 11:22
All too often people allow their emotions and their self-centered ways to control their behavior. The marriage relationship offers both partners the education of love, by way of opportunity. It’s an opportunity to love in otherness, to take the focus off of oneself, and to focus on the other. So the next time that all your needs are not being met, first appreciate the opportunity you have, and then make the most of it. Marriage is honorable in every way, so husbands and wives should be faithful to each other. God will judge those who commit sexual sins, especially those who commit adultery. Hebrews 13:4
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