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True Love Feelings, Emotional Feelings Of Love
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The feelings of love we feel come from an initiation of love, where love intercommunicates loving intentions. The feelings of love follow the affections of love by way of love intentionality. In other words, love feelings follow loving actions. Love feelings are felt within our hearts, we feel the love that others touch us with, and our emotions rise in response to the love that we feel. Everybody wants to feel the emotional feelings associated with love, and the feelings that accompany loves euphoria.
The emotional feelings of love bring us to a feeling of elation, an exhilarating psychological state of great joy. Often it is our ability to appreciate the love that we receive that elevates our emotional feelings. However we sometimes allow our feelings to overtake us in the early stages of our relationships and we actually become infatuated. These feelings of euphoria may actually lead us into infatuation, which is an object of extravagant short-lived passion. These feelings of love, (misrepresented as love), are usually associated to exuberant passion, in temporary admiration. Many times it is due to this infatuated state that people become hurt because they are unable to control their emotional feelings.
The feelings associated with infatuation are more common among adolescents and younger adults. There are plenty of young women who are so taken by their feelings, and their hormones, that they give themselves away prematurely. They then wonder, and seek to answer the question; If he had sex with me does that mean he loves me? The answer to that question is no, having sex with you does not mean that he loves you. It means that he lusts you, and you lusted him, you had sexual feelings, not love feelings. Unfortunately, our society and it’s cultural teachings associate sex to love, when in reality, sex outside of the context of marriage is generally lust driven. It’s generally a self absorbing physical desire to selfishly meet ones own physical mania. Sex alone does not meet loves criteria, because love is not self seeking. Love feelings follow love actions, sexual feelings often follow reactions to lust driven desires. We are all human, and we all experience the desires of our flesh, however true love feelings are associated with a deep relational bonding, not just physical intimacy.
Everyone has a desire to be loved and to naturally feel the feelings that accompany love. Remember though that the feelings come in reaction to the love that is expressed. This means that love must first be bestowed in order for the feelings of love to follow. So for you to be feeling the feelings of love means that someone had to express, show, or convey love to you in some form or fashion. It is at this juncture that many people get stuck, they get stuck on their own self interests, they like the love, so they selfishly look to acquire more for themselves. Kind of sounds a lot like what people do with money right? We all battle with inward selfishness and our culture teaches us that more is better, (more for ourselves). Love does not seek it’s own desires, it looks to fulfill the needs of others.
If you are feeling the feelings of love, wouldn’t you want to know that your spouse or partner is also having those same feelings? Love begins by presentation, show love to your husband, give love to your wife, and they too will enjoy the feelings of love. There are many people who ask the question; how do I get my husband to love me? or.. How do I get my girlfriend to love me? Simply, start with your own loving behavior, quit thinking about what you want to receive and start giving love to them. Ignite their love feelings, and thus the responses to love, by your own initiation. Make love a habit, you can not spread love onto others and not receive it yourself. Kiss me and kiss me again, for your love is sweeter than wine. Song Of Songs 1:2
Intention is multiplied by action, act your way into a loving behavior and you will accomplish loving feelings. Execute love, seek to satisfy the needs of your wife, girlfriend, husband, or boyfriend. Provide love an opening to bring about those feelings of love. Supply love like oxygen, and the love feelings will follow. We must show love through actions that are sincere, not through empty words. 1 John 3:18
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23
This is my prayer for you: that your love will grow more and more, and that you will have knowledge and understanding with your love. Philippians 1:9
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November 23rd, 2009 at 1:59 am
My boyfriend and i have been living together four years. In order for him to feel that i love him he he requires touching, kissing, and holding. We have had some pretty serious arguments and have both said hurtful things we did not mean out of anger. He continues to bring up my failures of the not loving him the way that he needs me to love him almost daily. I am a very live in the moment type of person and i dont like to judge or analyze everything that is said or done. He on the other hand analyzes almost everything i say or do. He knows how to push my buttons and get me angry or feel like i am completely useless and crazy. He is a man of power and control and I feel that he likes it when i lose control because thats more control for him and that really hurts me. I am affraid of touching or loving him in the ways that i feel comfortable because he is just going to judge me or tell me that either its wrong or not good enough. I love him but it is very hard for me to express my love in the ways that he need because of the constant reminders of what i dont do for him, and the failures of yesterday. I feel like i am going crazy (which he reminds me of also) and not sure i can ever do anything right when it comes to loving.
Answer: Sounds like quite a few issues going on in this relationship. Sounds like he is seeking motherly love, that he is focused on himself, and he manipulates and controls you through belittling in attempts to get his desires met. Sounds like too much of the “ME” word and not enough of the “YOU” word. Love focuses outwardly and is not self consuming. You are not married, he can cry all he wants to get what he wants and you are probably trying to live up to his expectations. Your in this thing backwards and may be allowing yourself to be used and manipulated. You might try to gain some understanding by finding out how his childhood was. However, you have both started a relational foundation that lacks good structure. If a man really loves you, let him give you a ring and a certificate of marriage, otherwise you give away your dignity and self respect….. and many men will take full advantage of that.
September 16th, 2009 at 3:00 am
I have been very happily married for 20 years. My husband’s father died last year and with other stress factors in his life he developed depression. The past 9 months have been extremely difficult especially when I found out he was having an affair with a work colleague, this had only been going on for 3 months. Although we are still together and trying to repair the damage to our relationship he says he has no feelings of love for me and hasn’t since the depression started before Christmas. Is this normal with depression? he wants me but seems to have lost these feelings. I still love him and he knows this, will these feelings come back?
Answer: Love is a choice, love is a action, and the Feelings follow the actions of love. Men are not women, they are different and 53% of America right now is dealing with some form of emotional disturbance. Now, since 53% is above 50%, that makes those in the 53% area normal. I would be careful about labeling anyone with clinical terms such as depression, as soon as you label someone with a term such as that, they take it like bad medicine and go around believing it 24/7. However, the best therapist is named Jesus, and if you really want to restore your marriage, you will spend time with Him.
September 4th, 2009 at 7:32 am
I am 30 yrs old now, still in love with the guy I met when I was 17 years old. we are not together because he is outside the country, even if he was here I do not think we would be together. there is a lot of complications, but the sure thing is we love each other.
He was dating my best friend, when we felt in love and he was also my brother’s best friend, so we kept our relationship a secret. But now we deeply in love with each other, just do not know what to do, because of hiding our relationship he ended up having a relationship with another woman and i also had a relationship with another man, but we kept seeing each other till now. I now realize that he is the only man I love.
??? Is seeing each other in a sexual context? If it is, that probably has much to do with the confusion. Emotions are not good at thinking, and love does not seek its own.
July 19th, 2009 at 6:32 pm
My husband and I have been married for 3 1/2 years now and i love him very much and deeper than when we first started out our relationship; the problem now is he won’t tell me he loves me and i repeatedly and continue to tell him, i wash his feet cook meals for him, take care of the children, put my whole life into making this work and every time he doesn’t tell me in return I feel hallow rejected and unloved and I keep saying it.. but i’m at a road where i feel i should quit but my bleeding heart still wants to give it a chance… just 2 months ago he’s had an outside affair with a lady in his platoon but my spirit warned me and I asked him outright about it and he told me the truth said it wasn’t sexual and it only lasted 12 days from the time i asked him (we had been separated 2 months for his training in the military. we are back together he provides for the family and we still have sexual relations when i initiate but he will not tell me he loves me… I stay at home with our two children 1 &; 2 and sometimes i feel i will lose my mind why am i doing this! I am only 24 and he’s 36… Sometimes walking seems like the answer but i know god will not have me do that! please help
Answer: You can not get from other’s what they do not have to give. The issue here is far deeper than him not saying those precious 3 words to you. I will contact you about this, hopefully your email is correct.