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Casual Sex Advice Focusing On Your Casual Sex Desires
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Fulfilling your sexual desires and fantasies through casual sex may be very important to you. Many people are looking for special romantic moments with partners that they feel will not only sexually arouse them, but also fulfill their bodily craving for physical intimacy and sexual release. In other words, their sole intent is for physical pleasure,achieve sexual climax and/or multiple orgasms through casual sex. For many men and women the most predominate issue is to find a mate who can satisfy them sexually. They may refer to these meetings as "booty calls" and at the same time talk about sexual love making. Sometimes the terminology gets filtered so it sounds less seditious. Are they actually making love or are they just plain having sexual intercourse? For your own best interests, finish reading this article, it may save you future anguish.
If two people who recently met are together and they are involved in casual sex to be stimulated by the other for pleasurable sexual feelings, how can they call that love making? One can not focus on oneself and call that love, love is not self centered. Now many people are going to say that they are focusing on their mates at this point, because something just does not feel right inside their hearts. Instead, now they may be saying that there is love in it because they are not selfish people. Ok, well perhaps one might need to ponder how that love developed then. You know, where those feelings came from that makes them feel so much in love all of a sudden.
Consider this scenario, you are a woman, you found that special romantic man that satisfies all your intimate sexual desires. You have been having casual sex with him for some time, and suddenly you are realizing that you have developed feelings for him. When two people have sexual relations with each other there is an emotional bond that takes place, sexual intimacy is the deepest form of sharing between two people. You now think you are in love and you think, or now hope, that he is in love with you. You feel like you have both shared love in such a deep meaningful way that he will want to move forward in the relationship. You start pushing towards a committed relationship, cause you want to be with him all the time now, only to find out that he just wants to have casual sex. This is where the emotional ramifications begin to set in.
Let’s look at this in a long term perspective, you meet someone, they satisfy all your sexual desires, the relationship seems to grow and you decide you want to be with that person the rest of your life. Your emotions tell you that you like the way they satisfy you, and that you are in love. Now you want to get married and live happily ever after. The casual sex relationship has overshadowed any friendship that would be necessary in building a lasting long term relational commitment. You both now say I love you to each other, because of the emotional sexual fulfillment, but how can you say I love you when you are only focusing on yourselves? I love you is an external expression, (unless you are talking to yourself). What do you think it’s going to be like being married to someone who is self seeking? Those kinds of people are not going to be looking to love and care for you, they are going to looking to get their own wants met. You will be like two children saying "I want, I want, I want" all the time, and strife will fill your lives with discord. At that point you are going to be wondering what happened to your relationship. Well you would be wondering that because you never really had one, at least not a meaningful one. All you really ever had was casual sex, no real relational bonding.
If a person is only focusing on their sexual desires, what kinds of people are they likely to be meeting? People that are very similar to themselves right? People that are looking for self gratification. A meaningful relationship is not built upon the fulfillment of selfish desires, you might as well be building a house on top of quicksand. You won’t truly get to know or appreciate someone unless you keep the emotional sexual aspect out of the relationship for a significant period of time. It is suggested that you keep this relational boundary for at least a season, and then if you decide you would like to move deeper into the relationship by committing yourself to one another, do so in a manner that says I love you forever…………Get Married.
Topics: Expressing Love |
July 13th, 2008 at 7:54 am
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July 13th, 2008 at 7:57 am
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July 13th, 2008 at 7:59 am
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July 13th, 2008 at 8:02 am
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July 13th, 2008 at 8:36 am
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July 25th, 2008 at 11:32 am
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September 26th, 2008 at 4:21 pm
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October 25th, 2008 at 12:04 pm
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