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Love Making The Right Way, Intimate Relationship Bonding Advice
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Love making is something special that two people share in holy matrimony. Love is the feelings you outwardly express to your spouse or significant other. Sexual intimacy is meant to be shared by two people who love one another in the context of marriage. Why? Because love making is the deepest form of sharing between two people, and because there is an emotional bond that takes place when two people are intimate with each other. This is also why so many women feel used afterward, they have given up their self respect for a temporary satisfaction. Why do so many relationships fail? Because people build their foundations based on the wrongs things, often that foundation is built on sex alone. When sex fails there is nothing for them to fall back on. Couples do not spend enough time building a foundation of friendship, where they learn how to communicate and love each other. Far too many people are only focused on themselves, on what they want and desire. Real love is not self-seeking, a true love outwardly gives. The right man will say I love you with a ring, other men will say I love you because they want something. There is a difference between sexual relations, (affairs), with several partners and the true passion of love making. In other words, sexual activity without love is hollow and within this emptiness there are significant emotional ramifications.
Society and it's worldly views want to sell you on sex, because sex sells, (in so many ways). Society teaches sex appeal, it stresses values of outward sexual appearance. Many women feel they need to have large breasts to attract men, so they get breast implants. The problem with that is the kind of men that they will attract to themselves. They are generally the kind of men who will use them for their own sexual gratification. Think of how many things that companies sell that are just related to sex. Think of all the commercials you see that are of sexual nature. People are being brainwashed and told that they should be "stimulating their sexuality". They want to arouse the sexiest lustful physical nature in people so they can make more money. Then they use the distorted expression, "love making", when in reality it's lust making, it does not have anything to do with love.
A healthy relationship begins with those who are looking for meaningful love. Within the context of a enriched marriage relationship is the bond of making love. If you truly want fulfilling love making experiences, then begin by dressing up your minds, not by taking off your clothes.
We hope the ideas in this love making article will improve your ability to successfully find and be in healthy relationships. We suggest reading
Safe Dating Ideas, Fashions For Dating Success, Making Character A Priority,
Making The Most Of Your Desires, and The Best Reasons For Marriage.
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July 11th, 2011 at 1:04 am
How true this is. God’s plan for man and woman/marriage is PERFECT in every way. We sin by fornicating and have no idea of the consequences of our actions, often blaming God for the fallout damage. When we become sexually intimate we effectively put up a block against getting to really know each other. Sexual union forms a soul-tie and when the two ’split’ the pain can be unbearable and take years to get over. God is the only one who can mend a fragmented soul torn apart by illicit sex and/or adultry/fornication.
December 28th, 2010 at 2:43 am
I think your right to, I’ve been married 21 years, We became lovers before we were friends. We never show any love or attraction to each other, no matter how hard i try. I always get my feelings hurt cause he acts like I’m not even there. I’m stuck in this marriage no way out, no love respect or happiness just trapped in an abusive lonely life.
Answer: You are only trapped by your own restrictive thoughts. When people want to lose weight they seek out all sorts of information on loosing diets and such. But when they encounter relationship issues they freeze in their tracks. Our issues in relationships begin with us, not with where our finger is pointing all the time, accept that initial prerequisite and then you have room for development and increase. Start with the source of love, which is God, pray for direction and insights. Then see watch these funny but enlightening DVD’s with your spouse and keep seeking wisdom to improve your marriage.
August 19th, 2009 at 7:31 pm
Hi Angel, thanks for sharing. I’m in the same boat as you but I’m still in this loveless marriage. Don’t wanna rock the boat cause got kids involved. I often wish for lust to make me feel like a woman again. I know it’s wrong but I’ve feelings too.
Comment: Sometimes people need to take the initiative and ignite the passion that they seek within their own proximity. Love is a choice, and it’s your choice to sit around looking for it to come to you, or to show it to your spouse in order to get the wheels moving again. Love looks to meet the needs of others, and when you do that, you start something. You do not have to wait on him to do something, refresh the environment, create a change right where you are.
August 13th, 2009 at 3:30 am
THE ADVICE IS REALLY BONDING. SEX IS NOT LOVE AT ALL. I HAVE DATED FOR TWO YEARS WITHOUT SEX AND OUR RELATIONSHIP IS STILL HEALTHY AND STRONG
September 24th, 2008 at 4:45 am
well the advice is so good, i wish my boyfriend who we have being dating for six months could understand that and stop asking me for sex.
September 20th, 2008 at 5:49 pm
Very good advise
July 3rd, 2008 at 10:43 am
You are so right. I still am dating with my fiance and we made up our mind never make love until after our marriage, but we are enjoying ourselves so much. We share everything together, love, joy, laughter, everything. We talk through the night on phone and we discuss everything, I mean everything. And believe me we never thought of satisfying each other sexually outside of wedlock. If there is any score to settle, we know how we do it. Sweet words, and we know what exactly to tell each other. It really works, not having sex before marriage, and communication is very very essential.
June 16th, 2008 at 11:56 am
You are SO RIGHT! When I 1st met & started dating my husband, we had sex on our 3rd date. We casually dated maybe 3xs a week. We married in 1999, and by 2002 had drifted so far apart…there wasn’t any communication, friendship or common interests. He kept to himself, became distant and secretive. When I tried to talk with him about anything he would become extremely angry, verbally abusive and walk away. Then in 2005 after being nothing more then silent roommates, he packed up and moved in with his girlfriend of several years. I’ve tried to maked things work, did so much his way, eventually just gave up and became a recluse, avoided friends, quit caring…wallowed in self pity for this failure… I’ve “punished” myself during the last 3 yrs for this failed marriage. Finally coming out this, realizing that takes so much more to make a relationship / marriage work. And oh yes, both partners have to work at it all their lifelong.