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Does He Love Me? Does She? Quality Time Behavior Love Signs
By Guide
In the representation of feelings towards others, actions really speak louder than words. Often time’s people say things that are not backed up by their behavior. Many people will use deceptive tactics that are in their own best interests, in order to achieve their own personal desires. It takes time to get to know someone and more importantly to get a clear view of their character, you can not read a book by it’s cover. Take that into consideration the next time you encounter a salesman, especially those who make their income based upon commission. If someone is trying to push you into something that you are not feeling comfortable with, it’s generally going to be motivated by selfishness.
What are some of the things you can look for in order to know if someone really cares or has interest in you? In the beginning of a potential relationship you should look for the simple things, like are they attempting to contact you in some fashion? Understand that if someone calls you they had to be thinking of you first in order to initiate the call. The same thing goes with an email, a text message, or even a card in the mail. Hopefully, in this stage, their intent is to get to know you on a friendship level. In the dating stages you should be looking to see if his or her interests are reflective of their behavior. Take your time and determine if they are content with talking to you on the phone, see if he or she truly enjoys and appreciates those kinds of opportunities.
When you are together with someone ascertain if he or she is enjoying being with you, or if they are trying to initiate something beyond spending quality time with you. Remember that there are many people who may find you physically attractive and they may wish to pursue that aspect of a relationship. The physical aspect of a relationship should be reserved for the substantial bonding of marital bliss. Understand that your judgment will be clouded by your emotions if you allow physical intimacy into your relationship foundation. You want a guy or a gal that is enjoying your companionship and fellowship. Get a feeling for his or her desire to associate with you as a buddy or pal. Let go of all those romantic dreams and fantasies until the relationship has matured enough to warrant it.
As time goes along determine by their actions if he or she is looking forward to making contact with you on a daily basis. The more time you spend together in communication and in companionship, the greater your bonding. Determine if he or she is putting off other things in order to make room to spend quality time with you. Are they going out of their way to be with you? Or are you feeling like you have been put on a shelf while he or she is pursuing other interests?
Another thing to look for are the things that he or she may be willing to do for you, as well as the gifts they may give you, (as long as it does not appear that they are trying to buy you). Generally if a guy brings you flowers or other small gifts that is a positive. However if it appears as though he is trying to impress you with his financial wealth in some manner, that might say to proceed with caution. Look for simple things, like are they trying to help you accomplish things that are important to you? If you tell him or her that your car needs washing, do they ask if they can assist you? If he or she did, it would establish a positive intent. If they are going grocery shopping do they ask if they can pick anything up for you? Remember it’s the thought that counts, and these kinds of actions may demonstrate an otherness mindset.
Actions are far more likely to demonstrate true intentions than are words, words are cheap. She wants to know, does he love me? Either may want to know when to say I love you and both probably want to hear it. Ladies, if he loves you, let his words be backed up by his actions, let him get you a ring! Don’t give yourselves up prematurely, if you do it will cost you significant emotional pain, keep your self respect and your dignity. Guys if she really loves you, she’ll say yes when you give her the ring.
We must show love through actions that are sincere, not through mere empty words. 1 John 3:18
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June 21st, 2009 at 3:59 pm
In a long distance relationship use to call me a 4-5 may more a in a day now he text or only calls when he isn’t near anyone to hear him talking to me. Than stated the other day he knows I love him and he really loves me but then says he wished he wasn’t so fickled right now. How am I suppose to take this and what is it suppose to imply as he texted me that and i always let him do the calling and now he always has an excuse as to why he didn’t call. Help with what you think this means am I wasting me time on this guy or not?? I am 47 years old don’t want to waste much more time seems i am always there for him but he never is for me and takes him hours I mean hours to respond to my text messages to him. Tell me should I just let go and run??
Answer: fickled means; marked by erratic changeableness in affections or attachments. Honestly, that does not sound like love. You say; just let go and run because you are feeling hurt. You are not getting your needs met in the relationship and you want to feel like you matter to him. It is also going to be difficult getting needs met, (on either side), in a long distance relationship. Back to this; I love you is an outward expression, but do the actions show it? I would like to suggest that you join into a small group at your local Christian church, here you would find love, give love and receive Gods direction for your life.
June 13th, 2009 at 3:39 am
hi, am with this guy for a year and almost a month..he had never gift me anything, even when i asked for it…i always give him things as gifts, i know he loves me, but am not sure… he takes money from me cause his financial situation is not really good, for 2 times that it was my birthday he did not call till i did, he had excuses…
he had the chance to propose but he did not cause he said he is not prepared yet, but he keeps saying it will be soon, and he wants it more than i do. and that good days are still to come… i dunno please tell me
Answer: I do not know either. You say you know he loves you, then you say you are not sure……if you are not sure, then you dont know. It sounds like he might be lacking some thoughtfulness, but I can not tell you what to do, you have your own choices in life to make. I would suggest that you NOT give yourself away physically in the mean time though.
April 24th, 2009 at 6:49 am
you have a guy and always demanding for sex and a time comes and you dont give in than he will not call you even he dont want to see you but he you give in he will always be free with you telling you all sort of of words he dont even help you in terms of money if you discuss about your education than he just turn off the discusion is that also love.
Answer: Selfish…. not love. Quality love wants to meet your emotional needs, that does not necessarily include money. Remember the old saying, can’t buy me love?
April 22nd, 2009 at 9:19 am
when you have a guy and you visit him and he don’t even talk unless you are alone even when you ask him question he dont want to answer is that real love? he dont call, I do the calling always, i dont know please i need solution.
Answer: Just like in dancing the man is to take the lead. Let him call you, and then by his actions you will know the answer. Control your emotions and do not be so anxious, be at peace in patience.
January 22nd, 2009 at 3:29 pm
pls i want to know, if a guy promise to spend the rest of his life with a girl on phone.. i mean proposing on phone because of distance and promise to marry her immediately she come back from the state.. but on the other hand, the guy can stay a month without calling and when eventually she call, he says is due to work stress and that mere hearing her voice on phone makes him lack concentration..my Question is “Do YOU THINK HE IS REAL”?
-Answer: Actions speak louder than words, what do his actions say to you? You need to make your own decision here, honestly ask yourself; do I think he is real? Then honestly answer yourself. I think you already know the answer, do not let your emotions cloud your judgement.
October 14th, 2008 at 8:44 am
I’m grateful for the these topics that really shapes relationships and marriages. I happen to get them at the right time and I believe its the Almighty God who knows what I’m going through and I thank you all for the good work done to unite marriages and relationships. God bless you abundantly.